Brother's best friends, girlfriend, sister-in-law's, cousins, step-brother. I think there has been a point in every one's life when you have either fantasized or actually dated one of your really good friend's realative. For me my little curiosity became a reality for a couple of months.
Two years ago when I was single, my friend and her boyfriend at the time would always invite me out to keep my mind off of things and to just help me move on with my life. One day we went to her mother's house for a little shin-dig. The whole way there she was telling me that I should take an interest in her mom's boyfriend's son. I of course asked what he looked like and she was filling me in on all the details. We arrive and I was liking what I saw, I got his name (Andrew) and that was pretty much it. Come to find out that he was going to be moving to another state within the next month. Story of my life, just when I do take an interest on anything not just gents something always comes in the way.
I am a firm believer in "things happen for a reason". This February my friends mother got married, it was a beautiful reception. (I arrived late due to my lovely work schedule) Well low and behold Andrew was there, he was actually the bartender that evening. My friend introduces us again and this time around he seemed like he was interested in me. We go about the evening and he keeps making the drinks stronger than normal we then decide to head out. I say bye to everyone that I know, then I get to Andrew I say "It was nice seeing you again, be careful driving home" he then pulls me in for the real thing and says "It was nice seeing you again as well" then kisses me on the cheek. I'm excited on the inside but play is coy on the outside.
A few days go by and we become friends on Facebook and get to talking about our schedules. He has a very noble choice of employment but his hours were pretty random, due to this being his first year on the job. We then exchange numbers via Facebook. One evening me and my girls decide to go to a comedy club then go out on the town. Well, while I'm out with the girls I get a text from Andrew asking what I'm doing that night and I tell him which bar we were at and 20 mintues later he shows up, which was really fun because that night it ended up snowing in the middle of March. After our little field trip to the car while playing in the snow we get in his car and he drops us off back at the house, I say bye to my friends then we get to talking til about 4:30am. We talked about our previous relationships, about his time away living in a different state, his new job, the pros and cons of it.
One month passes and he asks me to dinner, I was really apprehensive about it. I mean I liked the guy but I was also worried about what my friend thought about the situation. Several things ran through my head like, what if we do become "boy/girlfriend" and it ruins my friendship with my friend, or if we do go to their parents house and he's there, how awkward would that be. So I ask her her opinion and she lets me know that its completely fine with her she was the one who told me about him. I agree to dinner and we were suppose to sit on the patio because the weather was starting to become really nice outside but it ended up raining cats and dogs which lead us to sit inside.
We sit in a booth and we get to discussing whats being going on in our lives, our life time goals, dreams. Towards the end of our meal I notice Andrew move my drink to the right and he then places his drink right in front of me. Then all of a sudden he gets up and sits on my side of the booth....this struck me as odd and I asked him "what are you doing?" His reply "I want to be close to you" I then explain to him that I was a little uncomfortable with him sitting on the same side of the booth when there was only two of us. With that being said I was sure he was get up and head to his side of the booth but OOOOHHHHH NO!! He stayed on my side then proceeds to put his arm around my shoulder...I'm not big on PDA at all. I feel that should be something private and behind closed doors. After this little incident he then walks me to my car with his arm around my shoulder...again I'm not big on PDA. He kisses my five head and tells me to be safe driving home.
After that evening Andrew would do the occaissonal text, I didnt really know what to think of him at this point. He would invite me out and I would always make up and excuse. Several months go by and out of the blue I get a text from him asking what my plans were for that night and I tell him nothing. This was a Monday night one week before my birthday he invites me out to a bar so I decide you know what why not. I meet him at the bar and he introduces me to some of his co-workers, we have a grand old time, we say bye and end the evening. Now it's my birthday he sends me a text wishing me a happy birthday then he sends me a birthday wish on Facebook, which is cool I go to his page to thank him for the birthday wish and I came aross his status saying that he was "no longer listed as single".....he was "in a relationship". WHAT THE HECK?!?!?!?! I was shocked I mean, yeah I didnt give him the time of day after our date with the booth but for him to invite me to a bar then one week later be in a relationship....didnt make any sense. He also but their "anniversary" date which happens to be MY BIRTHDAY!!!! About a month ago I got a text from a number I didnt recognize and it was him...I then reply back asking him if his "girl friend" like the fact that her "boy friend" was giving out his number to other girls and his reply, a typical guy respones, "she's fine with it" PUH-LEASE!! Any girl in their right mind would NOT be ok with the fact that her boyfriend is giving out his new number to a girl he was trying to get with. Guess I......
"should've said no a long time ago"
Monday, October 25, 2010
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
The Social Network
Hot Stuff! Lil Momma! Sweet Thang! Sexy!.........these are some of the names that have NEVER been said to me. Since middle school, I've always been known as "cute". Every guy that I found attractive was NEVER attracted to me, they would always say, "Yvonne, I like you as a sister" or "You are just too cute, I would feel bad if I hurt you". As if that's suppose to be flattering!
It's funny how things change over the yrs. Who would have thought that we could find people that we havent seen in ages on Myspace or Facebook. Well lucky me, I came across quite a handful of gents that I use to go to school with. Everyone knows that once you accept their "friendship" on the social network you do the small talk..."how have you been, whats new in your life, what type of work are you doing now" Then you never type to them again. I ended up carrying on conversations with two different "randoms" on Facebook.
The first one was James, we went to high school and had one class together but he was a senior when I was a sophmore. We use to flirt in high school but he also said, "you are just too cute and too sweet for me to date" James had commented on a few of my photos, saying "you look good after all these years" (geez thanks, as if I was fugly then) he sent me a message (for those that dont have a Facebook, a message is something private between you and the sender) asking how I was holding up and how Paco was doing. Clearly this is his way to see if I'm single or not, so I reply back "I'm doing really well, just trying to focus on me and get my life in order and I wouldnt know how Paco is doing, we arent together anymore." We do the whole conversation thing for about two weeks, he then asks for my number, saying maybe we can meet up for a drink or something. After debating on if I wanted to give it to him, he then writes me saying, "Hey we can be friends and all but dont write anything on Facebook because I dont want stuff getting back to Paco." Ok first of all, I'm single and free to talk to whom I want when I want! Second, you and Paco never hung out outside of high school let along in high school. Why James is "scared" of Paco is beyond me...so I reply back saying, "Oh, so you want to be my secret friend? Ok, NOT INTERESTED!!!" I'm sorry but if you cant be my friend on freaking Facebook and it be just a causal thing then you dont deserve my friendship trying to sneak around, I mean....high school was seven years ago buddy! GET OVER IT!!!
The second random I came across was Juan, he was the new student at my middle school. Every girl was after him. He was cute, funny, and nice. For middle schoolers thats kinda of a big deal.....well he dated one girl (and by dating in middle school is walking someone to class or holding their books for them) They dated for about four months then he was back on the market, we had two or three classes together and we would always talk, blah blah blah. So we had a dance and I asked him if he wanted to go with me he said, "Yvonne, I like you as a sister. Plus, you are just too cute for me to hurt." UUUUUGGGGGHHHH if you cant tell, this is beginning to get really annoy me. So middle school is over and now we are in high school, he was on the football team and I was in drill team. Each week we had to make posters for our "buddy" to show school spirit well I ended up getting him my new girl year. I was a sophmore at the time and that's when Paco and I started dating, one night after a football game Juan came up to me and was like, "Yvonne, I've really been thinking and I like you more than a sister now." All I could say was, "Sorry, I'm with Paco now." We go about our business in high school, we even had a few classes through out the years and still managed to be friends. Well lets forward to March of this year, we become friends on Facebook and we talk through messages and we argee to meet up and go to a bar together. On the way to the bar we are talking and he then tells me that he was stupid not try to make it work with me. He's always liked me, he just said that I'm like a sister to him cause he was scared of his true feelings. He never thought that Paco and I would last as long as we did, he was waiting for the day we would break up and he would sweep me off my feet. (serious note, he DID say all of this hahahaha) So as I'm taking all of this in I'm amazed how all these fellas are trying to holla now that I'm single. I swear EVERY guy that I had a crush on back in the day has either tried to take me out on a date, or they compliment on my looks.
My goal is to meet new fellas, fellas that arent a friend of a friend, or anybody from high school. High school was ages ago, move on gents!! Guess I.......
"should've said no a long time ago"
It's funny how things change over the yrs. Who would have thought that we could find people that we havent seen in ages on Myspace or Facebook. Well lucky me, I came across quite a handful of gents that I use to go to school with. Everyone knows that once you accept their "friendship" on the social network you do the small talk..."how have you been, whats new in your life, what type of work are you doing now" Then you never type to them again. I ended up carrying on conversations with two different "randoms" on Facebook.
The first one was James, we went to high school and had one class together but he was a senior when I was a sophmore. We use to flirt in high school but he also said, "you are just too cute and too sweet for me to date" James had commented on a few of my photos, saying "you look good after all these years" (geez thanks, as if I was fugly then) he sent me a message (for those that dont have a Facebook, a message is something private between you and the sender) asking how I was holding up and how Paco was doing. Clearly this is his way to see if I'm single or not, so I reply back "I'm doing really well, just trying to focus on me and get my life in order and I wouldnt know how Paco is doing, we arent together anymore." We do the whole conversation thing for about two weeks, he then asks for my number, saying maybe we can meet up for a drink or something. After debating on if I wanted to give it to him, he then writes me saying, "Hey we can be friends and all but dont write anything on Facebook because I dont want stuff getting back to Paco." Ok first of all, I'm single and free to talk to whom I want when I want! Second, you and Paco never hung out outside of high school let along in high school. Why James is "scared" of Paco is beyond me...so I reply back saying, "Oh, so you want to be my secret friend? Ok, NOT INTERESTED!!!" I'm sorry but if you cant be my friend on freaking Facebook and it be just a causal thing then you dont deserve my friendship trying to sneak around, I mean....high school was seven years ago buddy! GET OVER IT!!!
The second random I came across was Juan, he was the new student at my middle school. Every girl was after him. He was cute, funny, and nice. For middle schoolers thats kinda of a big deal.....well he dated one girl (and by dating in middle school is walking someone to class or holding their books for them) They dated for about four months then he was back on the market, we had two or three classes together and we would always talk, blah blah blah. So we had a dance and I asked him if he wanted to go with me he said, "Yvonne, I like you as a sister. Plus, you are just too cute for me to hurt." UUUUUGGGGGHHHH if you cant tell, this is beginning to get really annoy me. So middle school is over and now we are in high school, he was on the football team and I was in drill team. Each week we had to make posters for our "buddy" to show school spirit well I ended up getting him my new girl year. I was a sophmore at the time and that's when Paco and I started dating, one night after a football game Juan came up to me and was like, "Yvonne, I've really been thinking and I like you more than a sister now." All I could say was, "Sorry, I'm with Paco now." We go about our business in high school, we even had a few classes through out the years and still managed to be friends. Well lets forward to March of this year, we become friends on Facebook and we talk through messages and we argee to meet up and go to a bar together. On the way to the bar we are talking and he then tells me that he was stupid not try to make it work with me. He's always liked me, he just said that I'm like a sister to him cause he was scared of his true feelings. He never thought that Paco and I would last as long as we did, he was waiting for the day we would break up and he would sweep me off my feet. (serious note, he DID say all of this hahahaha) So as I'm taking all of this in I'm amazed how all these fellas are trying to holla now that I'm single. I swear EVERY guy that I had a crush on back in the day has either tried to take me out on a date, or they compliment on my looks.
My goal is to meet new fellas, fellas that arent a friend of a friend, or anybody from high school. High school was ages ago, move on gents!! Guess I.......
"should've said no a long time ago"
Monday, October 4, 2010
Speedy Gonzales
Everybody has different time frames as to when they are ready to start "dating" again after a break up. For some it could be years, others it could be months, then there's me who after doing the whole break up get back together roller coaster thing for three years it only took me exactly five days to go on my first official date after the previous split with Paco. For me, the reason why I didn't dwell on the situation was simply because I was numb to the whole thing, I had already went through the heartbreak that this time around I didn't need to waste my precious tears on something was done with for quite sometime. That's why when my friend Ashley asked me if I would be willing to meet her boyfriend's really good friend I said why not!!!
One weekend we go to Dave and Busters and do the whole double date thing just so it wouldn't be super awkward. Ashley greeted me at the door and we make our way to the restroom, now of course I have to double check that I look OK and make sure that I don't have anything in between my teeth , well as we walk out we bump into Martin. I really didn't get a great look at him cause it all happen within four point five seconds, we did the generic introduction then he headed to the restroom. We then meet up with her boyfriend and Martin joins us a few minutes later. We played some games for a bit then decided we would sit down and grab something to eat, Ashley is on the same side of the booth as me and the two fellas are across from us. Through out the dinner I caught Martin looking at me several times, now all I could think was that I either had food on my chin, I had a booger, or he was just trying to see if I was cute or not. So I excuse myself and head towards the restroom to see what the heck he was staring at (nothing was on my face ...phew). I then come back and I over hear Martin telling his friend, "She's really pretty, I feel like I'm just staring at her." So after that comment I was more relaxed and enjoyed the rest of the evening. I ended up driving him to his car since he parked in the lower level and since it was cold out I thought I would be nice (really I was hoping to get his digits) We get to his car and we talk for a bit, then he's getting out of the car and he asks for my number, I just got my new phone that day so I didn't know my new number by heart and he probably thought I was making it up not wanting to give it to him.
I guess boys really play into the whole wait three days before you call cause on the third day he called! He left me a voice mail asking if I wanted to go to the movies, so since he waited three days to call me I waited four hours to call him back. I think the whole waiting game is a load of crap!! If you're interested in someone then why play the waiting game and just call the other person, I swear it would be so much easier. So we decided on the day then he tells me that he already picked the movie out and told me the time, at the time it was a little refreshing knowing that someone else was planning the evening but looking back on it now he didn't even ask me if I like that type of movie. We go see the movie and during the middle of it I get up and head to the ladies room, I return and see that the arm rest is up so I'm thinking I didn't move that up, well as I get ready to sit down he pulls me towards him so that we are cuddling. THIS WAS THE FIRST DATE!!! I tried moving away a couple of times just cause it was strange leaning against someone new. After the movie ended we head back to his place, I then meet his brother and his brother's girlfriend. After telling them it was nice meeting them I literally turn my head and I'm greeted with his tongue in my mouth. I was super surprised that I pulled away and said, "ummmm what are you doing?" he then tells me that he just couldn't help himself. GAG!!!
A few days go by and we do the texting back and forth throughout the day, we go on a couple of other dates which is cool. I'm getting to know his likes and dislikes, I even meet his friends. I think meeting of the friends is a big deal, I mean who really likes bringing different girls/guys to functions and you're friends be like who is so and so bringing this time. I feel like you should bring a lady friend or a fella around if its serious or getting serious (just my personal opinion) So I meet the friends introduced myself cause apparently that was too big a task for him to do. Well with certain people he then introduces me as his girlfriend!! WHAT?!?!?! NO NO NO..so I correct him and say "I'm his friend Yvonne" we then go about the evening and the next day I tell him that people generally talk about things like that he then says well lets talk about. We talk about the situation and he was going to school at the time and I felt like I was a distraction for him and we decided to just end things and see if maybe in the near future we could try it out again?!?!?! Guess I....
"should've said no a long time ago"
One weekend we go to Dave and Busters and do the whole double date thing just so it wouldn't be super awkward. Ashley greeted me at the door and we make our way to the restroom, now of course I have to double check that I look OK and make sure that I don't have anything in between my teeth , well as we walk out we bump into Martin. I really didn't get a great look at him cause it all happen within four point five seconds, we did the generic introduction then he headed to the restroom. We then meet up with her boyfriend and Martin joins us a few minutes later. We played some games for a bit then decided we would sit down and grab something to eat, Ashley is on the same side of the booth as me and the two fellas are across from us. Through out the dinner I caught Martin looking at me several times, now all I could think was that I either had food on my chin, I had a booger, or he was just trying to see if I was cute or not. So I excuse myself and head towards the restroom to see what the heck he was staring at (nothing was on my face ...phew). I then come back and I over hear Martin telling his friend, "She's really pretty, I feel like I'm just staring at her." So after that comment I was more relaxed and enjoyed the rest of the evening. I ended up driving him to his car since he parked in the lower level and since it was cold out I thought I would be nice (really I was hoping to get his digits) We get to his car and we talk for a bit, then he's getting out of the car and he asks for my number, I just got my new phone that day so I didn't know my new number by heart and he probably thought I was making it up not wanting to give it to him.
I guess boys really play into the whole wait three days before you call cause on the third day he called! He left me a voice mail asking if I wanted to go to the movies, so since he waited three days to call me I waited four hours to call him back. I think the whole waiting game is a load of crap!! If you're interested in someone then why play the waiting game and just call the other person, I swear it would be so much easier. So we decided on the day then he tells me that he already picked the movie out and told me the time, at the time it was a little refreshing knowing that someone else was planning the evening but looking back on it now he didn't even ask me if I like that type of movie. We go see the movie and during the middle of it I get up and head to the ladies room, I return and see that the arm rest is up so I'm thinking I didn't move that up, well as I get ready to sit down he pulls me towards him so that we are cuddling. THIS WAS THE FIRST DATE!!! I tried moving away a couple of times just cause it was strange leaning against someone new. After the movie ended we head back to his place, I then meet his brother and his brother's girlfriend. After telling them it was nice meeting them I literally turn my head and I'm greeted with his tongue in my mouth. I was super surprised that I pulled away and said, "ummmm what are you doing?" he then tells me that he just couldn't help himself. GAG!!!
A few days go by and we do the texting back and forth throughout the day, we go on a couple of other dates which is cool. I'm getting to know his likes and dislikes, I even meet his friends. I think meeting of the friends is a big deal, I mean who really likes bringing different girls/guys to functions and you're friends be like who is so and so bringing this time. I feel like you should bring a lady friend or a fella around if its serious or getting serious (just my personal opinion) So I meet the friends introduced myself cause apparently that was too big a task for him to do. Well with certain people he then introduces me as his girlfriend!! WHAT?!?!?! NO NO NO..so I correct him and say "I'm his friend Yvonne" we then go about the evening and the next day I tell him that people generally talk about things like that he then says well lets talk about. We talk about the situation and he was going to school at the time and I felt like I was a distraction for him and we decided to just end things and see if maybe in the near future we could try it out again?!?!?! Guess I....
"should've said no a long time ago"
Monday, September 27, 2010
My momma would be so ashamed!!
I believe everyone has good friends for different reasons.......one who keeps your darkest secrets, another who you go and try new restaurant's with, there's also the one friend who could NEVER resit a trip to the mall, then there's the friend who is willing to go out on the town with you at the drop of a hat!
Well my one friend who is willing to is always go out on the town is Natalie. Since the break up my partner in crime was trying to keep me busy and always asking me if I wanted to join in on the many, many girls night out. So I'd always go and not really feel attractive, all of my friends are gorgeous. I've never really been approached by any fellas (could be the BIG sign on my five head that reads "F-OFF" I don't know) Needless to say my friends ALWAYS get hit on by guys before I do. This one night, I'm actually feeling pretty darn good about myself, I wore a cute dress, took time on my make up and hair, heck I looked cute! We decide to go to a bar in Uptown and it's fairly crowed. We head to the bar and grab a drink, I see these two fellas closing out their tab. In the mean time Natalie is already ordering herself a beverage, I'm standing behind the two guys waiting to order my beverage. From the way the guy was standing I thought he was going to turn to his left and walk away but oooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhh NO, he turns right and literally bumps into to me. We both apologize and blame ourselves, he then introduces himself "I'm really sorry, I didn't see you there. My name is Tucker, what's yours?" As he's speaking to me I was thinking DDDDDDAAAAANNNNNGGGGG this guy is really good looking. He's probably just gonna be like the rest of the "Dallas Douche Lords" say sorry then head out. Normally I have a bar name when I go out but this night I was feeling a little adventurous so I decided to give him my real name. I introduce myself and we get to talking about what we do for a living, are we originally from Dallas, the whole she-bang! He then offers to buy me a drink and I refresh his memory and tell him that he just closed out his tab and that he really didn't need to buy me a drink. He then says, "Well I closed out because I didn't think it was worth staying here, ...but now I think otherwise." With this huge mischievous smile on his face......talk about a smooth operator! So with that being said OF COURSE that boosted my ego up ten notches!!!
In the meantime, the group of girls that I was with are giving me thumbs up in the corner and saying,"dannnngggg Yvonne he's really cute. Get it girl" Just really making it alittle uncomfortable and really obvious that I had found him attracted, or at least I had hoped. You never really know what someone looks like when you are at a bar and there's alcohol ...it can lead to a soooo not good looking guy or girl.....just saying!!!So the bar closes and the lights turn on and YES, he is as good looking in the light. He then invites me over to his place, (this is so not my character but I didn't get a bad vibe like I normally would) Plus before heading out a co-worker of mine told me "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone." Till this day I don't really know if that's the BEST advice to give out but that night I seriously took it into consideration. So I arrive at his place and we talk some more then.....The next morning I wake up and think oh man Carrie Underwood said it best "My momma would be so ashamed, It started off hey cutie where you from, then turned into oh, no what have I done."
A couple of days go by and I remember that I left my sisters brown earrings at his place. Not gonna lie, I never really had any intentions on contacting him after that night. So I'm in a pickle and am contemplating if I should really contact him to get them back. I called my friend whom I will not name but she then tells me, "Yvonne, if you decide to do that again rule # 1 you get in and you get out." Wish I was told that before hand....then I remember that my sister didn't know I borrowed her earrings. So this lead me to send him a text, well I had to text him numerous times before I finally got a hold of him. (I'm sure I seemed like a stalker) We then decide to meet at his place well he tells me a time but I'm literally waiting for 35 minutes in his drive way before he shows up. He arrives and tells me that he completely forgot we were meeting up and I tell him, " ummm you told me to come here at this time soooo..." well I walk in and we head to the restroom, as I'm in the hallway waiting he pulls out a clear bin full of jewelery and I'm thinking ohhhh man, what the heck did I get myself into, he then explains that that's his sister's jewelery PUUH-LEASE!!! I'm not as stupid as I look, geez!!!
Few months go by and I had a wedding party that I had to dress for work. (I work in the tuxedo department at a bridal store) well, the guys can either fax, email, call, or come in for measurements. I received a fax and the first and last name seemed really familiar but I never really put to and to together. The week of the wedding the wedding party starts coming in and getting fitted well of course there's always one straggler who waits at the last minute to try his tux on, so they page my name to tuxedos I walk in and guess who I see.........TUCKER!!! I'm thinking what are the freaking odds of this?!?!?!?!?!?!?! So I say hi whats your name what party are you with, and I'm not making any eye contact with him. So as he's trying on his tux I'm checking myself out in the mirror thanking the lord that I actually straighten my hair that day and that I looked descent. Don't act like you people don't check yourself out cause we all do it! He then comes out and he's asking me if he has his bow tie on correctly and he doesn't so he asks if I will help him with it so I do now he's a good six feet tall and I'm five even, so if you can imagine this as I'm adjusting his tie for him he then says to me, "I feel like I've met you before." All I could say was. "Yep...we have had conversation before." and I think at that moment a light bulb went off in his head and we both turned cherry red. It was super awkward afterwards cause I had to take payment on his tuxedo and I kinda felt like pretty woman asking for his credit card. Never thought in a million years that I would have that happen to me, guess I....
"should've said no a long time ago"
Well my one friend who is willing to is always go out on the town is Natalie. Since the break up my partner in crime was trying to keep me busy and always asking me if I wanted to join in on the many, many girls night out. So I'd always go and not really feel attractive, all of my friends are gorgeous. I've never really been approached by any fellas (could be the BIG sign on my five head that reads "F-OFF" I don't know) Needless to say my friends ALWAYS get hit on by guys before I do. This one night, I'm actually feeling pretty darn good about myself, I wore a cute dress, took time on my make up and hair, heck I looked cute! We decide to go to a bar in Uptown and it's fairly crowed. We head to the bar and grab a drink, I see these two fellas closing out their tab. In the mean time Natalie is already ordering herself a beverage, I'm standing behind the two guys waiting to order my beverage. From the way the guy was standing I thought he was going to turn to his left and walk away but oooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhh NO, he turns right and literally bumps into to me. We both apologize and blame ourselves, he then introduces himself "I'm really sorry, I didn't see you there. My name is Tucker, what's yours?" As he's speaking to me I was thinking DDDDDDAAAAANNNNNGGGGG this guy is really good looking. He's probably just gonna be like the rest of the "Dallas Douche Lords" say sorry then head out. Normally I have a bar name when I go out but this night I was feeling a little adventurous so I decided to give him my real name. I introduce myself and we get to talking about what we do for a living, are we originally from Dallas, the whole she-bang! He then offers to buy me a drink and I refresh his memory and tell him that he just closed out his tab and that he really didn't need to buy me a drink. He then says, "Well I closed out because I didn't think it was worth staying here, ...but now I think otherwise." With this huge mischievous smile on his face......talk about a smooth operator! So with that being said OF COURSE that boosted my ego up ten notches!!!
In the meantime, the group of girls that I was with are giving me thumbs up in the corner and saying,"dannnngggg Yvonne he's really cute. Get it girl" Just really making it alittle uncomfortable and really obvious that I had found him attracted, or at least I had hoped. You never really know what someone looks like when you are at a bar and there's alcohol ...it can lead to a soooo not good looking guy or girl.....just saying!!!So the bar closes and the lights turn on and YES, he is as good looking in the light. He then invites me over to his place, (this is so not my character but I didn't get a bad vibe like I normally would) Plus before heading out a co-worker of mine told me "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone." Till this day I don't really know if that's the BEST advice to give out but that night I seriously took it into consideration. So I arrive at his place and we talk some more then.....The next morning I wake up and think oh man Carrie Underwood said it best "My momma would be so ashamed, It started off hey cutie where you from, then turned into oh, no what have I done."
A couple of days go by and I remember that I left my sisters brown earrings at his place. Not gonna lie, I never really had any intentions on contacting him after that night. So I'm in a pickle and am contemplating if I should really contact him to get them back. I called my friend whom I will not name but she then tells me, "Yvonne, if you decide to do that again rule # 1 you get in and you get out." Wish I was told that before hand....then I remember that my sister didn't know I borrowed her earrings. So this lead me to send him a text, well I had to text him numerous times before I finally got a hold of him. (I'm sure I seemed like a stalker) We then decide to meet at his place well he tells me a time but I'm literally waiting for 35 minutes in his drive way before he shows up. He arrives and tells me that he completely forgot we were meeting up and I tell him, " ummm you told me to come here at this time soooo..." well I walk in and we head to the restroom, as I'm in the hallway waiting he pulls out a clear bin full of jewelery and I'm thinking ohhhh man, what the heck did I get myself into, he then explains that that's his sister's jewelery PUUH-LEASE!!! I'm not as stupid as I look, geez!!!
Few months go by and I had a wedding party that I had to dress for work. (I work in the tuxedo department at a bridal store) well, the guys can either fax, email, call, or come in for measurements. I received a fax and the first and last name seemed really familiar but I never really put to and to together. The week of the wedding the wedding party starts coming in and getting fitted well of course there's always one straggler who waits at the last minute to try his tux on, so they page my name to tuxedos I walk in and guess who I see.........TUCKER!!! I'm thinking what are the freaking odds of this?!?!?!?!?!?!?! So I say hi whats your name what party are you with, and I'm not making any eye contact with him. So as he's trying on his tux I'm checking myself out in the mirror thanking the lord that I actually straighten my hair that day and that I looked descent. Don't act like you people don't check yourself out cause we all do it! He then comes out and he's asking me if he has his bow tie on correctly and he doesn't so he asks if I will help him with it so I do now he's a good six feet tall and I'm five even, so if you can imagine this as I'm adjusting his tie for him he then says to me, "I feel like I've met you before." All I could say was. "Yep...we have had conversation before." and I think at that moment a light bulb went off in his head and we both turned cherry red. It was super awkward afterwards cause I had to take payment on his tuxedo and I kinda felt like pretty woman asking for his credit card. Never thought in a million years that I would have that happen to me, guess I....
"should've said no a long time ago"
Sunday, September 19, 2010
Inevitable
Just so you know, the names of these fellas are NOT their real names, so this will be the first of many blogs to come!
Three years ago I use to work at a restaurant (orange shorts, white tank top, scrunchy socks...hopefully from this little description you know the place) well, while working there I had quite a few regulars. Regulars are customers that come in and always want to sit with you. (for those that have never worked in the food industry before) Well I struck up a very close relationship with one of the regulars, not in any disgusting way people. Get your minds out of the gutter, he was more of a fatherly figure. So every Tuesday and Fridays he would come in with a group of his friends, and I would always have a table ready for them with their favorite beers. (talk about customer service) One Tuesday afternoon my co-worker came up to me and said, "Yvonne, I think you boyfriend is here, he's really cute." I was thinking to myself, boyfriend?...yea right, he wouldn't come up here! So I tracked down my co-worker and asked her where this "so called boyfriend" was and she told me, "at the front waiting for you".
OK so my "dream" guy is Dermot Mulroney, if you have no clue who I'm talking about he's the guy from "My best friend's wedding", "The Family Stone", & "The Wedding Date". Well as I walked to the front I noticed a really good looking fella (he resembles Dermot Mulroney, well in my eyes anyways) I was shocked that he would be asking for me, so many thoughts ran through my head like: how does he know me, what does he want, is he single??? haha So I apporched him with a smile and said, "I'm sorry, how do I know you?" His reply "You dont, Matthew told me to grab a table and ask for you" (Matthew is the fatherly figure) I said, "OH..Ok, my name is Yvonne, nice to meet you." And he said, "I'm Jacob, nice to meet you. I just started working for Matthew and I'm new to the area." Needless to say, Jacob was in the place every Tuesday and Friday's with Matthew. A year and a half passed, me and Paco (yes the same guy I was with for nine years) well if you guess that we broke up then your right. Word got around to Jacob that I was single and ready to mingle, he asked for my number and then asked me to dinner. I had never been on a real date before so I asked if it could be like a double date, he had a single friend and I had a single friend. Once I found out where dinner was going to be I called the one friend I knew who would NEVER pass up sushi....good old Sierra. Dinner went well and things with us started taking off, we would do the occassional dinner and a movie, hang out with friends, so I guess you could say that we were dating eachother. We just never really had a lable, just enjoining eachother's company.
One Wednesday night he called me and said that he wanted to see me before he went out of town (he was going to be gone for two weeks for work) So I picked up a movie "You, Me, & Dupree" and we ordered a pizza. After the movie I was like, "Ok, well I'm going to go home now", he convinced me to stay and said that he had a spare key and just really wanted to spend time with me...blah blah blah. I say blah blah but at the time I was loving every minute of it. I woke up the next morning and he's gone and on the counter there was a note and the spare key. I was really surprised to see the key there, I've never really been given a key so this was like a really BIG deal for me. While he's gone, he calls me, sends me texts throughout the day, the whole nine yards. Well, while he's away I went to dinner and to a movie with Paco. Paco was trying to wizzle his way back to my life and I feel for the bait. I went over to Matthews job site and as I was driving up I noticed Jacob's vehicle there and thought hmmmmm that's funny, he hasnt even tried calling me or anything. I walk in a say hello to Matthew and then he tells me that Jacob is upstairs. I go upstairs walk into his office and he greets me with, "Oh hey you, how have you been?" As if nothing,...I'm a little annoyed and I see his phone is on his desk. I picked up his phone to see if there was a dial tone and there was. As I'm doing this, he's looking at me like WTF, so I say, " Oh just checking to see if your phone works, guess what....it does." He gives me excuse after excuse as to why he hasnt called. blah blah blah, while he's still trying to save himself I then pull out the key to his place and throw it on his desk. He then says, "Oh I forgot I gave that to you." Wow, so I guess you give your key out offten is what I was thinking. I walk out and he keeps calling my name but I didnt go back to his office.
A couple of weeks pass and at this point me and Paco are back together, I got a random text from Jacob that read: "Please call me, we need to talk." Every bad possible thought went through my head at that moment, I didnt respond because I was in the car with Paco. So a couple of minutes went by and Jacob calls me but I hit ignore, then he sent me another text that read: "Call me back, it's an emergency" I stepped away to make the call, I know I know I was bad girfriend at the time but I needed to know what was going on. Well this so-called "emergency" was that Chris Daughtry was in Addison for The Taste of Addison and he knew I liked him and wanted to see if I wanted to join him and a couple of his friends. At the time I thought it was really cute that he went through all that just to let me know that Chris Daughtry was here. Well a couple of days go by and I get a call from Jacob and at this point me and Paco are living together. I answer the call only because Paco was out of the house, I then tell him that I'm back with Paco and we want to try to make it work. We then decide to keep eachothers numbers just to see what the future might hold.
Two years pass and I'm yep, you guessed it single.....I got a new phone and as I was tranferring the numbers I came across Jacobs name, I sent a blast text letting everyone know that I got a new number. Like two minutes passed and I got a text from Jacob asking: "Who is this?" So I tell him it was me and we do the whole generic small talk, "How have you been, what's new?" Then he tells me that he's in a relationship so Ijust responded back, "OH,.....OK......cool" After that text I starting to think that timing was so off with us. That happen this Feburary, well in March around 11:00ish my phone went off and I'm thinking who the heck would be contacting me at this hour? I grab my phone and the screen reads: Jacob, at that moment my heart stopped. I was shocked, confused, excited, heck I was speechless. I'm starting at the screen thinking OMG OMG OMG does that really say Jacob!! The text read: "Hey this is Jacob, is this Yvonne? I have like three different numbers for you." So I played it cool and waited to respond, three minutes later i wrote,"Yes, this is Yvonne, this is my current number. How have you been?" He respondes back like Speedy Gonzales and asks if he could call me. I told him sure, I'm still surprised that I'm walking around in my room thinking what is going on, maybe there is a chance we can try it out again. As my mind was somewhere else I forgot he was gonna call and I scared myself when the phone rang. We talked for about a good fifteen minutes, he basically wanted to let me know that he was single and he needed to vent so I let him vent, but as he's venting the only thing that stuck out in my mind was the fact that HE WAS SINGLE!! I'm thinking I'm single, your single, lets mingle. haha
Exaclty one month to the day from our last conversation, I decided to shoot him a text and see how he was holding up. He responded back and told me that he and the EX were going to try to make it work, real talk....I was bummed. So me being me I replied back, " well, I hope it works out for you. I want to see you happy, either with me or her...hahaha just kidding, good luck." So he responds back, "thanks, I wish the same for you." I honestly thought that would be the last time I hear from him......boy was I wrong. In July I got a phone call from Jacob and I picked up and we decided to meet up for some drinks, well he tells me the whole story again about why they broke up and that he has mixed feelings, he doesnt know what to do, he doesnt want to hurt her. So I tell him stop worring about how your gonna make her feel, how do you feel, what do you want, you have to look out for number one. He thanks me for the advice then he walks me to my car, we hug and he says, " I''ll call you or send you a text sometime this week, lets do dinner." So I say, " Yeah right Jacob, I get the whole break up get back together, trust me I did it for three years." He replies, "Come on Yvonne, dont be like that. I'm really done with her." I say, "Well, dont talk about it, be about it." The next morning I recieve a text from him that read: "Hey, it was good catching up last night, I know you know this but please dont contact me, I'll conatct you. It's not like you dont know my situation, it would only make things more difficult." So I dont respond I mean what do you even say to that?! (Rhetorical question)
So a month passes and I get a text from him and he asks if he could call me and I tell him that I'm working but if he wants he could callme after six, he then replies that he will call around seven thirty. So seven thirty come and right on time he calls...he was always good about doing what he says. I answer and he begins to telll me that so much has happen to him and he wanted to be the one to tell me that he was going to propose to his EX girl friend. Not gonna lie, I was crushed.................I dont wish him well or even try to talk him out of it, I know and he knows that thats a HUGE mistake, I've said this before and I'll say it again...if you have any doubts in your mind about being with something then you probably shouldnt be together, when someone proposes to someone you should be 150 percent sure that that's the one. No questions asked!! Then he goes into the real reason he called, " I called to tell you that we need to deleted eachothers numbers, I mean I've always stayed in contact with my ex girlfriends but your the one ex girlfriend I can not be in contact with." I'm beginnning to think that I have selective hearing beacuse all I heard him say that I was his ex girlfriend hahahahahaha!
There's a song by Jessie James called "Inevitable" and the course pretty much sums up this three year thing.
You're in love with me n you just don't know it yet
Everyone sees it, but you won't admit
That you're already in too deep n there's no goin' back, No oh
How much longer are you gonna hide
Make up your mind before you run out of time
I know that she's beautiful
But our love's inevitable
"should've said no a long time ago"
Three years ago I use to work at a restaurant (orange shorts, white tank top, scrunchy socks...hopefully from this little description you know the place) well, while working there I had quite a few regulars. Regulars are customers that come in and always want to sit with you. (for those that have never worked in the food industry before) Well I struck up a very close relationship with one of the regulars, not in any disgusting way people. Get your minds out of the gutter, he was more of a fatherly figure. So every Tuesday and Fridays he would come in with a group of his friends, and I would always have a table ready for them with their favorite beers. (talk about customer service) One Tuesday afternoon my co-worker came up to me and said, "Yvonne, I think you boyfriend is here, he's really cute." I was thinking to myself, boyfriend?...yea right, he wouldn't come up here! So I tracked down my co-worker and asked her where this "so called boyfriend" was and she told me, "at the front waiting for you".
OK so my "dream" guy is Dermot Mulroney, if you have no clue who I'm talking about he's the guy from "My best friend's wedding", "The Family Stone", & "The Wedding Date". Well as I walked to the front I noticed a really good looking fella (he resembles Dermot Mulroney, well in my eyes anyways) I was shocked that he would be asking for me, so many thoughts ran through my head like: how does he know me, what does he want, is he single??? haha So I apporched him with a smile and said, "I'm sorry, how do I know you?" His reply "You dont, Matthew told me to grab a table and ask for you" (Matthew is the fatherly figure) I said, "OH..Ok, my name is Yvonne, nice to meet you." And he said, "I'm Jacob, nice to meet you. I just started working for Matthew and I'm new to the area." Needless to say, Jacob was in the place every Tuesday and Friday's with Matthew. A year and a half passed, me and Paco (yes the same guy I was with for nine years) well if you guess that we broke up then your right. Word got around to Jacob that I was single and ready to mingle, he asked for my number and then asked me to dinner. I had never been on a real date before so I asked if it could be like a double date, he had a single friend and I had a single friend. Once I found out where dinner was going to be I called the one friend I knew who would NEVER pass up sushi....good old Sierra. Dinner went well and things with us started taking off, we would do the occassional dinner and a movie, hang out with friends, so I guess you could say that we were dating eachother. We just never really had a lable, just enjoining eachother's company.
One Wednesday night he called me and said that he wanted to see me before he went out of town (he was going to be gone for two weeks for work) So I picked up a movie "You, Me, & Dupree" and we ordered a pizza. After the movie I was like, "Ok, well I'm going to go home now", he convinced me to stay and said that he had a spare key and just really wanted to spend time with me...blah blah blah. I say blah blah but at the time I was loving every minute of it. I woke up the next morning and he's gone and on the counter there was a note and the spare key. I was really surprised to see the key there, I've never really been given a key so this was like a really BIG deal for me. While he's gone, he calls me, sends me texts throughout the day, the whole nine yards. Well, while he's away I went to dinner and to a movie with Paco. Paco was trying to wizzle his way back to my life and I feel for the bait. I went over to Matthews job site and as I was driving up I noticed Jacob's vehicle there and thought hmmmmm that's funny, he hasnt even tried calling me or anything. I walk in a say hello to Matthew and then he tells me that Jacob is upstairs. I go upstairs walk into his office and he greets me with, "Oh hey you, how have you been?" As if nothing,...I'm a little annoyed and I see his phone is on his desk. I picked up his phone to see if there was a dial tone and there was. As I'm doing this, he's looking at me like WTF, so I say, " Oh just checking to see if your phone works, guess what....it does." He gives me excuse after excuse as to why he hasnt called. blah blah blah, while he's still trying to save himself I then pull out the key to his place and throw it on his desk. He then says, "Oh I forgot I gave that to you." Wow, so I guess you give your key out offten is what I was thinking. I walk out and he keeps calling my name but I didnt go back to his office.
A couple of weeks pass and at this point me and Paco are back together, I got a random text from Jacob that read: "Please call me, we need to talk." Every bad possible thought went through my head at that moment, I didnt respond because I was in the car with Paco. So a couple of minutes went by and Jacob calls me but I hit ignore, then he sent me another text that read: "Call me back, it's an emergency" I stepped away to make the call, I know I know I was bad girfriend at the time but I needed to know what was going on. Well this so-called "emergency" was that Chris Daughtry was in Addison for The Taste of Addison and he knew I liked him and wanted to see if I wanted to join him and a couple of his friends. At the time I thought it was really cute that he went through all that just to let me know that Chris Daughtry was here. Well a couple of days go by and I get a call from Jacob and at this point me and Paco are living together. I answer the call only because Paco was out of the house, I then tell him that I'm back with Paco and we want to try to make it work. We then decide to keep eachothers numbers just to see what the future might hold.
Two years pass and I'm yep, you guessed it single.....I got a new phone and as I was tranferring the numbers I came across Jacobs name, I sent a blast text letting everyone know that I got a new number. Like two minutes passed and I got a text from Jacob asking: "Who is this?" So I tell him it was me and we do the whole generic small talk, "How have you been, what's new?" Then he tells me that he's in a relationship so Ijust responded back, "OH,.....OK......cool" After that text I starting to think that timing was so off with us. That happen this Feburary, well in March around 11:00ish my phone went off and I'm thinking who the heck would be contacting me at this hour? I grab my phone and the screen reads: Jacob, at that moment my heart stopped. I was shocked, confused, excited, heck I was speechless. I'm starting at the screen thinking OMG OMG OMG does that really say Jacob!! The text read: "Hey this is Jacob, is this Yvonne? I have like three different numbers for you." So I played it cool and waited to respond, three minutes later i wrote,"Yes, this is Yvonne, this is my current number. How have you been?" He respondes back like Speedy Gonzales and asks if he could call me. I told him sure, I'm still surprised that I'm walking around in my room thinking what is going on, maybe there is a chance we can try it out again. As my mind was somewhere else I forgot he was gonna call and I scared myself when the phone rang. We talked for about a good fifteen minutes, he basically wanted to let me know that he was single and he needed to vent so I let him vent, but as he's venting the only thing that stuck out in my mind was the fact that HE WAS SINGLE!! I'm thinking I'm single, your single, lets mingle. haha
Exaclty one month to the day from our last conversation, I decided to shoot him a text and see how he was holding up. He responded back and told me that he and the EX were going to try to make it work, real talk....I was bummed. So me being me I replied back, " well, I hope it works out for you. I want to see you happy, either with me or her...hahaha just kidding, good luck." So he responds back, "thanks, I wish the same for you." I honestly thought that would be the last time I hear from him......boy was I wrong. In July I got a phone call from Jacob and I picked up and we decided to meet up for some drinks, well he tells me the whole story again about why they broke up and that he has mixed feelings, he doesnt know what to do, he doesnt want to hurt her. So I tell him stop worring about how your gonna make her feel, how do you feel, what do you want, you have to look out for number one. He thanks me for the advice then he walks me to my car, we hug and he says, " I''ll call you or send you a text sometime this week, lets do dinner." So I say, " Yeah right Jacob, I get the whole break up get back together, trust me I did it for three years." He replies, "Come on Yvonne, dont be like that. I'm really done with her." I say, "Well, dont talk about it, be about it." The next morning I recieve a text from him that read: "Hey, it was good catching up last night, I know you know this but please dont contact me, I'll conatct you. It's not like you dont know my situation, it would only make things more difficult." So I dont respond I mean what do you even say to that?! (Rhetorical question)
So a month passes and I get a text from him and he asks if he could call me and I tell him that I'm working but if he wants he could callme after six, he then replies that he will call around seven thirty. So seven thirty come and right on time he calls...he was always good about doing what he says. I answer and he begins to telll me that so much has happen to him and he wanted to be the one to tell me that he was going to propose to his EX girl friend. Not gonna lie, I was crushed.................I dont wish him well or even try to talk him out of it, I know and he knows that thats a HUGE mistake, I've said this before and I'll say it again...if you have any doubts in your mind about being with something then you probably shouldnt be together, when someone proposes to someone you should be 150 percent sure that that's the one. No questions asked!! Then he goes into the real reason he called, " I called to tell you that we need to deleted eachothers numbers, I mean I've always stayed in contact with my ex girlfriends but your the one ex girlfriend I can not be in contact with." I'm beginnning to think that I have selective hearing beacuse all I heard him say that I was his ex girlfriend hahahahahaha!
There's a song by Jessie James called "Inevitable" and the course pretty much sums up this three year thing.
You're in love with me n you just don't know it yet
Everyone sees it, but you won't admit
That you're already in too deep n there's no goin' back, No oh
How much longer are you gonna hide
Make up your mind before you run out of time
I know that she's beautiful
But our love's inevitable
"should've said no a long time ago"
Friday, September 17, 2010
Why I decided to start a blog.....
I would like to start off my introducing who I am, my name is Yvonne and I'm 26 years old. If someone were to ask me 5 years ago where I saw myself in 5 years, I would have said, "I could see myself as either being married or planning my wedding." Let me bring you back to reality....that's clearly not how it ended up!
This year I decided to end my 9 year....YES 9 year relationship with my high school boyfriend.Long story short...we wanted different things out of life. I'm really quite surprised that it lasted as long as it did, not a lot of people these days can say that they've been in a relationship for that long. It was defiinitely a learning experience let me tell you, but that's not really why I wanted to start a blog.
I wanted to start a blog because I've never really experience the whole "dating" in high school and I'm still kinda new to the whole "dating" world. I've gone on quite a number of dates and to be completely honest with you, they ALL have turned out to be pretty horrible. I know, I know everyone goes on bad dates and what not but I've gone out with some oh ...what's a nice way to say this... some "randoms". I started to think for a second that maybe something was wrong me. Which I've discovered is NOT the case!
There's just some many different stories that I could tell you now but I will go ahead and end it for this first session of blogging, I feel everyone should have a signautre sign off so mind will be ......
"should've said no a long time ago".
This year I decided to end my 9 year....YES 9 year relationship with my high school boyfriend.Long story short...we wanted different things out of life. I'm really quite surprised that it lasted as long as it did, not a lot of people these days can say that they've been in a relationship for that long. It was defiinitely a learning experience let me tell you, but that's not really why I wanted to start a blog.
I wanted to start a blog because I've never really experience the whole "dating" in high school and I'm still kinda new to the whole "dating" world. I've gone on quite a number of dates and to be completely honest with you, they ALL have turned out to be pretty horrible. I know, I know everyone goes on bad dates and what not but I've gone out with some oh ...what's a nice way to say this... some "randoms". I started to think for a second that maybe something was wrong me. Which I've discovered is NOT the case!
There's just some many different stories that I could tell you now but I will go ahead and end it for this first session of blogging, I feel everyone should have a signautre sign off so mind will be ......
"should've said no a long time ago".
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