Inevitable

Just so you know, the names of these fellas are NOT their real names, so this will be the first of many blogs to come!

Three years ago I use to work at a restaurant (orange shorts, white tank top, scrunchy socks...hopefully from this little description you know the place) well, while working there I had quite a few regulars. Regulars are customers that come in and always want to sit with you. (for those that have never worked in the food industry before) Well I struck up a very close relationship with one of the regulars, not in any disgusting way people. Get your minds out of  the gutter, he was more of a fatherly figure. So every Tuesday and Fridays he would come in with a group of his friends, and I would always have a table ready for them with their favorite beers. (talk about customer service) One Tuesday afternoon my co-worker came up to me and said, "Yvonne, I think you boyfriend is here, he's really cute." I was thinking to myself, boyfriend?...yea right, he wouldn't come up here! So I tracked down my co-worker and asked her where this "so called boyfriend" was and she told me,  "at the front waiting for you".

OK so my "dream" guy is Dermot Mulroney, if you have no clue who I'm talking about he's the guy from "My best friend's wedding", "The Family Stone", & "The Wedding Date". Well as I walked to the front I noticed a really good looking fella (he resembles Dermot Mulroney, well in my eyes anyways) I was shocked that he would be asking for me, so many thoughts ran through my head like: how does he know me, what does he want, is he single??? haha So I apporched him with a smile and said, "I'm sorry, how do I know you?" His reply "You dont, Matthew told me to grab a table and ask for you" (Matthew is the fatherly figure) I said, "OH..Ok, my name is Yvonne, nice to meet you." And he said, "I'm Jacob, nice to meet you. I just started working for Matthew and I'm new to the area." Needless to say, Jacob was in the place every Tuesday and Friday's with Matthew. A year and a half passed, me and Paco (yes the same guy I was with for nine years) well if you guess that we broke up then your right. Word got around to Jacob that I was single and ready to mingle, he asked for my number and then asked me to dinner. I had never been on a real date before so I asked if it could be like a double date, he had a single friend and I had a single friend. Once I found out where dinner was going to be I called the one friend I knew who would NEVER pass up sushi....good old Sierra. Dinner went well and things with us started taking off, we would do the occassional dinner and a movie, hang out with friends, so I guess you could say that we were dating eachother. We just never really had a lable, just enjoining eachother's company.

One Wednesday night he called me and said that he wanted to see me before he went out of town (he was going to be gone for two weeks for work) So I picked up a movie "You, Me, & Dupree" and we ordered a pizza. After the movie I was like, "Ok, well I'm going to go home now", he convinced me to stay and said that he had a spare key and just really wanted to spend time with me...blah blah blah. I say blah blah but at the time I was loving every minute of it. I woke up the next morning and he's gone and on the counter there was a note and the spare key. I was really surprised to see the key there, I've never really been given a key so this was like a really BIG deal for me. While he's gone, he calls me, sends me texts throughout the day, the whole nine yards. Well, while he's away I went to dinner and to a movie with Paco. Paco was trying to wizzle his way back to my life and I feel for the bait. I went over to Matthews job site and as I was driving up I noticed Jacob's vehicle there and thought hmmmmm that's funny, he hasnt even tried calling me or anything. I walk in a say hello to Matthew and then he tells  me that Jacob is upstairs. I go upstairs walk into his office and he greets me with, "Oh hey you, how have you been?" As if nothing,...I'm a little annoyed and I see his phone is on his desk. I picked up his phone to see if there was a dial tone and there was. As I'm doing this, he's looking at me like WTF, so I say, " Oh just checking to see if your phone works, guess what....it does." He gives me excuse after excuse as to why he hasnt called. blah blah blah, while he's still trying to save himself I then pull out the key to his place and throw it on his desk. He then says, "Oh I forgot I gave that to you." Wow, so I guess you give your key out offten is what I was thinking. I walk out and he keeps calling my name but I didnt go back to his office.

A couple of weeks pass and at this point me and Paco are back together, I got a random text from Jacob that read: "Please call me, we need to talk." Every bad possible thought went through my head at that moment, I didnt respond because I was in the car with Paco. So a couple of minutes went by and Jacob calls me but I hit ignore, then he sent me another text that read: "Call me back, it's an emergency" I stepped away to make the call, I know I know I was bad girfriend at the time but I needed to know what was going on. Well this so-called "emergency" was that Chris Daughtry was in Addison for The Taste of Addison and he knew I liked him and wanted to see if I wanted to join him and a couple of his friends. At the time I thought it was really cute that he went through all that just to let me  know that Chris Daughtry was here. Well a couple of days go by and I get a call from Jacob and at this point me and Paco are living together. I answer the call only because Paco was out of the house, I then tell him that I'm back with Paco and we want to try to make it work. We then decide to keep eachothers numbers just to see what the future might hold.

Two years pass and I'm yep, you guessed it single.....I got a new phone and as I was tranferring the numbers I came across Jacobs name, I sent a blast text letting everyone know  that I got a new number. Like two minutes passed and I got a text from Jacob asking: "Who is this?" So I tell him it was me and we do the whole generic small talk, "How have you been, what's new?" Then he tells me that he's in a relationship  so Ijust responded back, "OH,.....OK......cool" After that text I starting to think that timing  was so off with us. That happen this Feburary, well in March around 11:00ish my phone went off and I'm thinking who the heck would be contacting me at this hour? I grab my phone and the screen reads: Jacob, at that moment my heart stopped.  I was shocked, confused, excited, heck I was speechless. I'm starting at the screen thinking OMG OMG OMG does that really say Jacob!! The text read: "Hey this is Jacob, is this Yvonne? I have like three different numbers for you." So I played it cool and waited to respond, three minutes later i wrote,"Yes, this is Yvonne, this is my current number. How have you been?" He respondes back like Speedy Gonzales and asks if he could call me. I told him sure, I'm still surprised that I'm walking around in my room thinking what is going on, maybe there is a chance we can try it out again. As my mind was somewhere else I forgot he was gonna call and I scared myself  when the phone rang. We talked for about a good fifteen minutes, he basically wanted to let me know that he was single and he needed to vent so I let him vent, but as he's venting the only thing that stuck out in my mind was the fact that HE WAS SINGLE!! I'm thinking I'm single, your single, lets mingle. haha

Exaclty one month to the day from our last conversation, I decided to shoot him a text and see how he was holding up. He responded back and told me that he and the EX were going to try to make it work, real talk....I was bummed. So me being me I replied back, " well, I hope it works out for you. I want to see you happy, either with  me or her...hahaha just kidding, good luck." So he responds back, "thanks, I wish the same for you." I honestly thought that would be the last time I hear from him......boy was I wrong. In July I got a phone call from Jacob and I picked up and we decided to meet up for some drinks, well he tells me the whole story again about why they broke up and that he has mixed feelings, he doesnt know what to do, he doesnt want to hurt her. So I tell  him stop worring about how your gonna make her feel, how do you feel, what do you want, you  have to look out for number one. He thanks me for the advice then he walks me to my car, we hug and he says, " I''ll call you or send you a text sometime this week, lets do dinner." So I say, " Yeah right Jacob, I get the whole break up get back together, trust me I did it for three years." He replies, "Come on Yvonne, dont be like that. I'm really done with her." I say, "Well, dont talk about it, be about it." The next morning I recieve a text from him that read: "Hey, it was good catching up last night, I know you know this but please dont contact me, I'll conatct you. It's not like you dont know my situation, it would only make things more difficult." So I dont respond I mean what do you even say to that?! (Rhetorical question)

So a month passes and I get a text from him and he asks if he could call me and I tell him that I'm working but if he wants he could callme after six, he then replies that he will call around seven thirty. So seven thirty come and right on time he calls...he was always good about doing what he says. I answer and he begins to telll me that so much has happen to him and he wanted to be the one to tell me that he was going to propose to his EX girl friend. Not gonna lie, I was crushed.................I dont wish him well or even try to  talk him out of it, I know and he knows that thats a HUGE mistake, I've said this before and I'll say it again...if you have any doubts in your mind about being with something then you probably shouldnt be together, when someone proposes to someone you should be 150 percent sure that that's the one. No questions asked!! Then he goes into the real reason he called, " I called to tell you that we need to deleted eachothers numbers, I mean I've always stayed in contact with my ex girlfriends but your the one ex girlfriend I can not be in contact with." I'm beginnning to think that I have selective hearing beacuse all I heard him say that I was his ex girlfriend hahahahahaha!

There's a song by Jessie James called "Inevitable" and the course pretty much sums up this three year thing.
You're in love with me n you just don't know it yet
Everyone sees it, but you won't admit
That you're already in too deep n there's no goin' back, No oh
How much longer are you gonna hide
Make up your mind before you run out of time
I know that she's beautiful
But our love's inevitable




"should've said no a long time ago"