You remind me of...

It’s funny how much crap guys will say to try to impress you or make them seem more interesting! This next “story teller” is the reason I started to blog about my experiences so…thank him…..

A few months ago I had received a message through Facebook, from a guy named Enrique. He went to high school with me (shocker), he was older then I was, and he resembled the EX!! The message was a little odd…the subject was “?” and it read “How do I know u sorry for asking that “I responded back with “Asking what? I'm confused????” 20 seconds pass and he writes “I was trying to figure out how do I remember u didn't u go out with Paco” yea I’m sooo sure, we have the same mutual friends and his default pic was with one of mine and Paco’s friend. I replied with “Yes sir for 9 yrs. we haven't been together since January” he writes “Ok cool. Me and andrew r. brother where talking bout u and I was like didn't she date Paco and so I was just wondering. So how r u and what do u do” I like how he was trying to be a smooth operator with the questions so I wrote “Oh geez hopefully is wasn't anything bad haha ekkk I've been good just working a lot and trying to stay busy! I work in a Bridal store in west Plano. Meeting new people, going on dates with some real Dallas douche lords haha what about u?” The messaging lasted for about a good two hours, towards the end of the conversation he writes this “I think I might get a cocktail or two if u want to met up for a few drinks. Don't be scared.” I lived in Frisco at the time and every thing was pretty out of the way from everyone else so I wrote “Where do u even live @....I'm like super far” he then tells me that he lives in G-town but was “always” in Frisco…so it was a Tuesday night and I didn’t have anything going on so I decided to met up at Gloria’s.

I get to Gloria’s and I see him at the bar…its a little weird cause I never said a word to him in high school but all of a sudden I was meeting up with him, as I make my way to the bar I notice he looks sooooo much like my ex. He stands up and greets me, we hug then he pulls the chair out for me to sit in. The first thing he says is “wow cant believe you came” I just said “ well I didn’t have anything else going on tonight” We talk about high school, I even tell him that he resembles Paco and he kind of got upset because apparently he gets that a lot. In high school I knew my ex had a brother that went there and I always thought it was Enrique hahahaha until I actually met his brother. He then tells me that my ex is actually an acquaintance of his and they hung out last week and they were talking about me……ok I was thinking, I thought he didn’t “know who I was” now all of a sudden you and my ex are acquaintances and yall are talking about me hmmmmm. I don’t say anything and let him just talk the night away. He had made a comment about me living in Frisco and that I must have a lot of scrilla…aka money and that I was living the good life, but then he told me he was looking at houses in Frisco that start off at about $1,000,000.00 . PUH-LEASE DUDE!! He asks what type of car I drove I tell him (Jeep Liberty) then he tells me this story about how he has an Escalade but someone rear ended him and that’s why he was driving an old Buick. First of all I could care less what type of vehicle you drive, second I hate liars!! I then say “well if someone else hit you, wouldn’t your insurance cover that and wouldn’t you be in a rental?” he says “well the person who hit me didn’t have insurance so he’s just gonna pay me little by little” yeeeaaaaahhhhhh I’m so sure.

Here’s where it starts getting interesting, after the car conversation out of the blue he says “oh and if we start hanging out I don’t want you to get star struck of anything but I’m really good friends with Jason Kidd (Maverick’s), we call him Kiddy Kid so if you hear me on the phone and say that name that’s him, we hang out all the time.” Hahahahaha little did he know that me and T-New (Taurence Newman) hung out a few times and that I actually went to his house and beat him at Guitar Hero (one game) but winning is winning!! Only because my friend was dating him a few years ago but I said “oh I don’t get star struck, me and T-New hung out a few times, so I know how to act around “celebrities” he had this shocked look on his face and said “you know T-New?” I then tell him yes, my friend dated him and we hung out a few times no big deal. After that we end the night and the next days to follow I would get the text messages, the phone calls the whole she-bang. It was the first football game of the season and he asked me if I wanted to join him and his friend at a sports bar in Frisco so I said sure. I get there and the tab is completely free, his friend is a beer rep for the sports bar so everything was taken care of. A few drinks start flowing and I’m starting to feel a little tipsy. We end up kissing (GAG….DOUBLE GAG) and he kept calling me “princess” all night, I thought it was kind of cute until I heard him call every other girl “princess” at the bar.

The next day we were both off and he called me during the day and asked how I was feeling, we talk about random stuff then I say something along the lines of  “hey its cute if you call other girls pet names or whatever but can you please call me by my given name” he says “oh I’m sorry princess, but I like to treat girls I’m interested in like princesses…I even call my mom princess” this doesn’t settle well with me so I said “more reason to call me by my given name…Yvonne”. We end the call and I got a text from a guy that I know and he asked if I wanted to grab dinner, the day was still early and I wanted to weight my options so I didn’t respond to him quickly, an hour or so goes by and my friend Natalie asks what I’m doing that night I say nothing really, and she said she would call me after work to discuss plans. A couple of hours go by and Enrique calls me and asks if I wanted to join him at his company happy hour…I was a little uneasy cause we really didn’t go on a first date and he already wants to introduce me to his co-workers!! EEEKKK!!! I told him that I was either gonna go to dinner with a guy or hang out with my friend whom I hadn’t seen in a long time. He got jealous and said “so are you gonna get mad if I talk to a girl at the bar?” WHAT??? I say “umm you are free to talk whom you want and when you want, you and I are NOT exclusive, I barley know you.” He didn’t like the fact that I said that and said “so are you gonna go on a date with guy or hang out with your friend?” I just said “I don’t know yet and I didn’t know I needed permission from you, I gotta go bye”

I end up going out with my girl, and on the way to her house Enrique calls me and I picked. He’s at the bar with his co-workers and he says “so you meeting with that guy for your date?” I say “relax!!! No I’m actually going to meet up with my friend.” I could tell through the phone that he was smiling and he said “aww so you ditched the guy for me?” I say “ummm don’t think for one second that you had any influence on my decision, I wanted to see my friend so don’t flatter yourself” He then tells me that all his co-workers thought I was “cute”, “adorable”, “really pretty” and I said “what are you showing them my facebook pic?” he then says “no, I showed them the pic we took at the bar” RATS!! I completely forgot about taking a picture, good thing it was before the drinks were flowing. Then he says “oh, yea and they did a background check on you and I know how many tickets you’ve gotten.” CREEPER!! I’m all about doing a background check on someone you don’t know but to actually tell the person oh hey I just did a background check on you is a little strange!!! I got about my business with my girl and it was a fun night.

The next few days are ehhhh not so good, he keeps sending me text messages and I’m not really responding to him like I did before just cause it really bothered me that he would do something like. One night I finally say “you know to be honest with you; I think you’re a cool guy but I’m not really interested in you. We can do the occasional text every now and then but you just remind me too much of my ex and I’m trying to move forward not backwards” he writes back with “its cool, I need to focus on me anyways you’re a cool girl but to say I remind you of your ex is an insult.” OOOK I don’t say anything back cause I didn’t know what to say, as I drive up to my house which was 3 minutes later I get another text saying “I thought you said looks don’t matter and that you give guys chances” yes I do give guys chances and you obviously blew yours when you did a background check on me and became a little too controlling when we weren’t even anything. I didn’t respond back to him text but I kid you not, 5 minutes later he called me and I send it straight to voice mail and he said “I was out of line with the text, I’m sorry, come up to this bar and watch the game with me” are you kidding me?!?!?!?! I didn’t go, and till this day this guy still texts me like…if I haven’t responded to the last 5/6 text probably not gonna start now….guess I………

“Should’ve said no a long time ago”

FedEx…….doesn’t always deliver!!!

Ahhhhh….one of the great joys about being single is that EVERYONE is always trying to set you up with someone; or they know a friend of a friend that would be “just perfect” for you. A few months ago some of the ladies at work had been telling me about one of our FedEx guys….he rarely came into our store, but the times he did they made sure to let me know. By the time I would get to the back of the store he would already be in his truck and be on his way. So I was really curious to see what the hype was all about….

One day at work my co-worker told me that we had a package that needed to be picked at our location but it wouldn’t be our normal guy that would pick it up, and that it’s the guy she’s been trying to get me to check out. I of course head to the nearest mirror to see if I could try to improve my face at all and run my fingers through my hair to give it a little bit of volume. A few hours go by and I hear the FedEx truck pull up…I was nervous, I don’t know why but my palms started to sweat and my heart was pounding. This is going to sound really cheesy but as he opened the door the sunlight beamed through the room and all I could see was his silhouette, he was really tall about 6 feet tall and was very lean but still had ehhh some definition in his arms and through out his shoulders. Well hell he was really good looking, he had olive skin, brown hair, and did I mention he was tall. Hahaha he greeted me with a smile and I smiled back, he picked up his boxes then was on his way. About 20 minutes go by and our normal UPS man Mitch walks in and I ask him questions regarding the FedEx guy. He then informs me that he’s aware of the guy but has never met him, and word on the street was that every girl thought he was attractive.

After our first sighting, Mitch “randomly” ran into the guy and just causally asked him if he had picked up some packages at the bridal store and he said “yes” then Mitch says something to the effect of “oh well there’s some one there that thinks your cute” and Mitch said this is what he said “oh the brunette?” So I guess he was checking me out as well…Gotta love good ole Mitch, he did some detective work for little ole me and every day came back with a little bit more information. The first day was his name Jonas, second day was his age and relationship status, 36 and recently single. Third day was that he was on Facebook and I got his last name, he has a really long last name and he even took time to write it out for me. Freaking Facebook I swear hahaha, once I got all his info my co-workers even my boss were like “lets look him up on Facebook, ask to be his friend, give Mitch your number on a business card to give to Jonas”…..GEEEEZZZ relax!!! I said “Ill just ask to be his friend on Monday, ill let him enjoy the weekend.” Then my very lovely friend Cassie says “Yvonne, think about it, you guys may talk tonight, you could hang out on Saturday, and could really hit it off with him. We can plan you wedding next month…” hahaha just kidding about the last sentence but she did say everything else, so I finally gave in and asked to be his friend that day.

I was in the process of moving that weekend and during the move he “accepted my friendship”. I sent him a message saying “I thought I would go ahead and introduce myself (well kind of).....I'm Yvonne, you came into my job to pick up a couple of packages the other day. So hello…” a few days go by and he replies with “Hi there! I'm sorry, ive been meaning to introduce myself to you too, but im without a home computer at the moment, and im going thru a bit of a painful breakup. But, I must tell you how flattered I was you took an interest in me..when the ups guy told me you asked abt me, it seriously made my day! Afterall, you are obviously very pretty! I would love to get to know you better, not really sure where I stand at the moment, just coming out of a serious relationship so recently and all...but sometime soon I would like to meet for a drink or something...do you live in north dallas by chance? I live in Austin Ranch and tend to stay up north...”  yea I think I got it the first time you mentioned you just got out of a relationship…I respond back with “I'm actually really familiar with that area, I just moved to Garland from Frisco about a week ago. I would like to get to know you as well, and trust me I've gone through a break up I’m really just looking to met new people. Here's my number (XXX) XXX-XXXX” A few weeks go by and he had to come into our store to pick 2 packages and I was sick as a dog…..I couldn’t talk, I looked like crap, I felt like crap and of course things like this only happens to me. He comes in and by this point pretty much all of the employees knew what we were trying to brew something

up in the back (in regards to me and Jonas) so one of my co-workers who is CRAZY was back there and he walked in and seemed fine, I said hello then turned away I couldn’t let him see my at my worst, he was like 4 feet away from me and the crazy co-worker was saying something and he just looked at me like huh, he leaves and that was that. I got a text from a number I didn’t know and it read “of course you would schedule a package when im sick as a dog ;)” I just responded back with “I swear I had no clue and that makes two of us”

Game one of the world series…me and my friend Kathryn (shout out) went to Twin Peaks to watch the game with some older fellas, during the game my other friend Natalie text me and told me they were keeping it low key and just staying in Austin Ranch. A light bulb went off in my head, FedEx guy lived there and I was heading there after the game….why not! I sent him a text telling him that we were gonna be in his neck of the woods and he was more than welcome to join us if he wanted. He responded back with saying that he would join us….he gets there and I introduce him to the gals I was with then decide to go across the street to the other bar. We get there literally 3 minutes later and we head to the patio, we pick a rather large table so at this point he is directly across from me…we all start talking amongst ourselves and then out of now where he says “Eva Longoria!” I say “huh?” then he says, “I’ve been trying to figure out who you look like and you look like Eva Longoria” I say “why cause I’m short and have brown hair…ha-ha thanks but people normally tell me I favor Jennifer Love Hewitt” my friends take the compliment a little better then me and say “aawww that’s sweet” drinks start flowing and then he asks me why me and the ex broke up. I say the truth and say “we just wanted different things out of life and we grew apart” so I guess different things out of life really intrigued him because he asked “like what?” I elaborate and he starts to laugh….I say “you’re laughing because you don’t want those things or what?” I should’ve known that this was going to turn out bad considering this was the first time I had ever hung out with him and I barley knew him but cant take it back now…

I’d rather not go into detail about our conversation but I can tell you that during the middle of it, out of now where this fool starts yelling at me. We hit a pretty deep topic and I don’t know if that was why he and his ex broke up but he had a lot of built up aggression and I was the lucky one that he blew up on…..after his yelling I said “ok whoa! Stop yelling at me and second, maybe we shouldn’t have talked about this the first time hanging out.” Well if I had a buzz going that definitely was a buzz kill….towards the end of the night he apologized for yelling and that he was just passionate about the topic, blah blah blah I saw him maybe one other time after that night and it was super awkward and come to find out Mitch ran into him one day and asked if we were hitting it off and apparently he said “no, she’s a really pretty and sweet girl but we just want different things out of life and there’s just no point in wasting each others time.” AMEN!! And this is exactly why I don’t try dating someone JUST  for their looks, if you can’t have a serious conversation with me and try to get to know me for ME then I’m not interested. I’m not trying to be someone’s “arm candy” because call me crazy but looks do fade and I want something way much more than that! Guess I….

Should’ve said no a long time ago

Creeper McCreeperson

This next blog really isn’t anyone I dated; I just thought I would share what goes on in my life at work…..One of the perks of my job is that I get to see some rather good looking fellas, and I also come across some average Joe’s. I normally help them adjust their tuxedo, we make small talk then I send them on their way. Well I had two different situations where these guys couldn’t take no for an answer.

The first guy was about 5’7”, dark hair, fair skin, and wore glasses. When he came in to try on his tux he was a little shy and very soft spoken. Once he came out so I could inspect him, I asked him if he knew the bride or the groom. He begins to tell me that he grew up with the groom and that they were childhood friends; as I’m letting out the hem in his pants he’s telling me stories about him and the groom. I also had to do some minor alterations on his coat sleeve and explained to him that he could either wait about 20-30 minutes for his things to be ready or he could come back the next day. He decides to come back the next day, as he’s getting dressed he asks me about my job, how long have I work there, was it a busy season, blah blah blah. He comes out and hands me his rental, I then tell him that he could come back anytime after 1:00pm to pick his things up. After explaining to him what was going on he was just standing there, staring at me with this blank expression on his face so I ask him “did you get all that?” I don’t know if guys feel a little bit brave because of where the tuxedo room is located (a room off to the side in the corner) but he says “yes, you are so attractive, I can’t help but stare” CREEEPER!!! So I thanked him and as he’s walking out, he randomly shouts out “we should grab coffee” then he’s gone….WTF?!?!?!?!

The next day a little after 2:00 he comes back in to pick his rental up and he says “I was being serious when I said we should grab coffee.” I say “oh wow, I’m flattered but I don’t drink coffee…it stains your teeth.” He says “ok then lets grab lunch” I then say “again I’m really flattered but I just broke up with my boyfriend like 2 days ago and I’m not over it yet” (just for the record it had already been like four or five months since the split….but yes I pulled out the “I just broke up” card on him) as I’m saying this to him he leans over to grab my business card and was like “well can I at least have your number?” talk about being forward…..I say “ummm I don’t just give my number out, sorry” he didn’t like this answer so he asks “ok, what about your email?” WOW this guy was very persistence, I say “again, I’m really flattered I am but I’m just not ready to date anyone right now.” He never gives up he says “well good just give me your number and I’ll call you in about a month or two and you should be fine.” This fool here….I swear!! After about another two minutes of going back and forth of me rejecting him he finally gave up and pulled out his card and said “when you’re ready give me a call” Hopefully this guy isn’t waiting around for me to call him….

The next guy….the wedding he was in was one of our consulting clients, the bride wanted all the guys credit cards to be charged  because they weren’t going to  be coming in to try on. I ran all the cards and one of the cards got declined, I call the fella up and he told me that he was going to be getting paid on that Friday and that he will have the funds in his account, also that he was going to be picking his up because he actually lived in Dallas, unlike the other guys who were from all over. Friday comes and he tries on his tux and everything fits, he gets undressed then pays for his tux. As we are waiting for the receipt to print out I saw that he took one of my business cards. He signs the receipt and he’s off.

An hour or so goes by and I received a notification from Facebook says I had a message. As im staring at this I don’t recognize the name at all so I’m curious to see what it says, I open it up and it reads “Do you by chance work at stardust?” I’m normally the type of person that responds back fairly quickly, whether it be text message, phone call, freaking Facebook, so I say “Yes.....” he then replies with “Dang you're quick lol well I picked up my tux earlier I figured there aren't many yvonnes out there not a creep promise haha I was wondering if your single if you would want to go out sometime thought I'd take a shot in the dark” well the very first thing I thought was CREEPER….haha I’ve said this before, I know it takes a lot of courage to ask a girl out so 9 times out of 10 if I get asked out by a guy then why not, I believe everyone should get a chance BUT…the fact that he took my card and ask through Facebook…come on!! So I thought about how I could reply by not being bitchy so this is what I said “I'm really flattered but it’s a conflict of interest” he says “It's cool just worth a shot! Have a great rest of the day” I didn’t want to be rude since I had already rejected him so I just said “You do the same!” well I thought that was the end of the conversation but he had to go and throw this in “

Thanks if you change your mind let me know, I would really love to take you out :) “

Some may say that that was “game plan” but I mean seriously guys, what ever happen to the old days and I mean back before cell phones were out and you actually got to get to know someone, rather then try to Facebook stalk someone…I wont end it with my “signature mark” seeing as how I never really went on a date with these randoms…

THE LAME-O

My friend Natalie has this one guy friend Keith, whom I had never met up until a few months ago. He met us at a bar and after meeting me apparently he was asking Natalie about me saying “who is that, she’s cute, is she single, what’s her story?”  She filled in him by saying “that’s Yvonne, she was practically married but now she’s single, she’s just enjoying single life now” After we left the bar Natalie told me he was asking about me and I just said “ok, coooool” The following day I got a text from Natalie asking me if I wanted to join her and a couple of her friends for brunch, I declined I had to recover from the previous night. A couple of seconds later she sent me (so I thought) another text saying “hey THE KEITH wants your number, can I give it to him?” So I said “well if he really wants it that bad HE can ask me himself” several minutes go by and I receive a text from a number I didn’t recognize and it read “hey this is THE KEITH can I have your number” WOW….so I wrote him back saying “well seeing as how you just text me I guess you already have it.” After that I started to get text messages from him like every other day asking me if I would go to dinner with him. After awhile of begging I finally gave in and say “fine, I’m off on Sunday lets do something then”  

 A few days pass and we decided to just keep it low key and make dinner and have wine at Natalie’s place. After dinner she got a call from Keith asking what we were doing, she invited him over. (Keep in mind this is before our date) Before Keith arrived at her place I was in the middle of watching “The Bounty Hunter”. He comes in says hello to me then heads out to the patio with Natalie, once they walked back inside I’m sitting on the couch with a glass of wine just enjoying the movie. He sits next to me and he’s trying to talk to me and at one point he then says “geez Yvonne we gotta get you loosen up, relax, and have a good time” Ok for one I was in the middle of movie, I mean who really interrupts someone while they have their attention elsewhere. Second, I’m sick and tried of guys trying to get me to drink to ensure that I have a “good” time, sorry people but I don’t need alcohol to have fun!

At this point I’m super annoyed with this guy then I got a notification on my phone and my ex boyfriend’s sister had messaged me. I was a little surprised because I hadn’t talked to her in a really long time so I was stunned. I guess Keith was watching my face expression and then he says “Oh no who is it; you’re ex boyfriend contacting you?” I just replied back to him saying “Ummm no, just his sister” He then says “Oh no, let me see a picture of this guy, let me see what my competition is” REALLY…guys if you want to make a good impression on a girl don’t try comparing yourself to their ex boyfriend, at least show the girl that you have some sort of confidence!! So I just said “well I don’t have any pictures of us…...actually there’s a picture of the entire wedding party in one of my albums if you want to know what he looks like that bad, then go look on my page” This crazy fool did it, after he facebook stalked my ex he then just gets really annoying and little obnoxious so I tell Natalie I’m just going to head to bed and Keith is like “Oh come on Yvonne don’t go to sleep yet, the night is still young, blah blah blah blah….”

Our date night, he picks me up and it’s the week before my birthday, we ended up going to Addison. He tried to take me to “Genghis Grill” and as we pulled in I said “I’ve eaten here before and I really don’t like this place” I wasn’t trying to be rude but I just don’t believe in paying for something that I’m not gonna eat. So he apologizes and says well where you want to eat then. Every night that week I was gonna be having dinner with one of my friends for my birthday since they already had previous engagements so I really didn’t want to eat the same thing in one week, so I said I wanted Hooters! I happen to really like the food there and he was like “are you being serious right now? This is probably the coolest date I’ve been on if you want to eat there” so I said “yes I am being serious it’s just chicken and girls in shorts no biggie” dinner is ok; we get to talking about how we meet Natalie, our jobs, just random things. After dinner he then takes me to 300 (bowling) he beat me two games and I beat him at playing pool, he asks if I wanted to go out and have some drinks but I said no thank you I really need to head home and do some laundry. He drives me home I thank him for the evening and we hug that’s it, then Natalie calls me and asks if I wanted to join her in Austin Ranch for some drinks so I did. If you can’t tell I wasn’t really into this guy.

My night out for my birthday, it’s crazy how we can run into people we really don’t want to see in Dallas. Well, we ended up going to the same bar Keith was at, earlier that day he had text me and asked what I was doing for my birthday and I just responded with “just going to dinner and out with my really close friends, nothing too big” we end up sitting at a table and he’s there and he’s wasted face then hugs me and says “happy birthday Yvonne” I say “thank you” he then keeps his arm around me and says “DAMN girl, you are sexy as hell” not gonna lie does make a girl feel pretty good when someone compliments them; then after the 100^th time of saying this I say “yea I think I got it the first 50 times you said it” then he takes it upon himself to tell me that he has a “gift”. that is never ending…OOOOOHHHHH REALLLY….so I say “oh, enlighten me what is it?” I’m not going to go into specific detail as to what it was but it’s was really graphic and I may or may not have egged it on but it wasn’t a pretty sight that’s for sure. The night is winding down and we head to valet, as we are waiting for our car Keith is standing by me and is getting into some sort of argument with a random guy Natalie, his friend and I  are trying to calm him down. He pushed his friend and I think ruins his shirt (he ripped it) and then calls me a, and I quote “FUCKING BITCH”.

The next morning I get a text from him saying “oh I’m sorry blah blah blah” then he sent Natalie the same text and she asks him if he remember s saying that to me, he says no and then she asks if he remembers pushing his friend and he says no. Clearly he was drunk but that still no excuse to call me that for no reason….he then blows up my phone with text messages/phone calls/leaving messages apologizing the whole ten yards. Natalie had to basically tell this guy that he lost his chance with me, I mean you would think if I’m not replying to you then I want nothing to do with you. Guess I………..

“should’ve said no a long time ago”

Undo it

Destiny............. Fate................ meant to be.............. "THE ONE".................. soul mates. We all believe in that fairy tale world; especially me since I'm a hopeless romantic at heart. So this next little insight on my life shouldn't come as a surprise as to why I foolishly thought that it was simply "meant to be".

Ten years ago I was a freshman in high school; I knew some of the seniors & normally talked to them if I saw them. One afternoon my best friend (shout out Joyanna) & I (we happen to STILL be best friends til this day) were waiting for either her dad or my mom to pick us up from school. While hanging out in the student parking lot, these two seniors came up & started talking to us. Their names were Jack & Jace, I happened to think that Jace was really cute; I mean he was a senior after all!! I was always too shy to talk to Jace so I would talk to Jack (one of his good friends at the time). We get to talking & I say, "Wow, someone smells really good." Jack then says, "Oh, it's me I'm wearing Jack in the bottle." At the time Christina Aguilera’s Genie in a bottle was a hit. I happened to think that was really funny and that's really the only memory I had of those two fellas.

Fast forward to May of this year, my mom decided to go ahead & move back home (ten hour drive south) to take care of my grams. I came across a rather overly excited young lady whom I will name Roberta, she is a friend’s mom and their place was always and still is the "go-to-house" after school. If you wanted a home cooked meal Roberta would stop what she’s doing and make you anything you wanted, there's always cookies, snacks, brownies, shoot it is a freaking Sam's store in her kitchen. Well on the day my mom was heading to leave on her journey home I stopped by Roberta's house and had dinner with her and her daughter whom I hadn't seen in quite some time. After dinner we then head to the famous "porch", a few other people join us, it was a freaking North Garland reunion. Then low and behold Jack comes driving up and makes a grand entrance with his music blaring in his car, I didn't recognize him till he came and said hello and tried to give me a hug and I just sat there. I just don't hug random people I had to figure out how I remembered him, after my rejection with the whole hug thing I noticed he did a double take like who is that. Roberta asks Jack if he remembered me and he said, "Yvonne, that’s you?" Shocker I know, I guess I really was an ugly ducking that turned into an average looking duck after all these years. We then reminisce about high school and I brought up the whole "Jack in the bottle", he thought it was pretty cool that after all these years I remembered that.

Roberta's son was getting married in June and Jack needed a date and I wanted to go to the wedding since now days I don't really get to enjoy weddings since I always have to work them, I wanted to actually enjoy it as being a guest. Then Roberta's daughter suggested that Jack ask me to be his date, it was kind of on the spot but I accepted. It was getting pretty late and I decided to head home, I said bye to everyone and that was that. The next day I went to Roberta's house to talk about Jack, what was his situation… single, attached, interested?! Jack had recently moved back from Vegas and he had just ended his three relationship with his ex girlfriend, whom I know by the way. I didn't really know how to take it just because I'm all about girl code and I would never date one of my friends ex's, it’s just something I personally wouldn't do. But this particular situation was different, I mean I never hung out with her outside of high school ever, she was still living in Vegas and he was in Texas. As Roberta & I are talking Jack pulls up I'm thinking oh wow talk about timing we were just talking about him. The three of us are talking outside and Roberta decides to go to sleep, Jack and I stayed up for eight hours just talking about life in general, what we want out of life, what we've been up to since high school, what we are looking for now. Not gonna lie with every other guy I’ve had a wall up and if you were interested in me then you would have to try to break my wall down, with Jack for whatever reason he knocked the wall down with a single touch. Maybe it was the way the stars were aligned that night, maybe it was "fate" I mean ten years later I meet “Mr. Wonderful” after going through so much with my ex Paco, this stuff only happened in the movies. As I was sitting there thinking all of these crazy thoughts we check the time and it's six thirty in the morning, we decide to go to IHOP for some food, on the way back from IHOP he then says, "Yvonne, I would really like to take you out on a date before the wedding, I like hanging out with you, I think you're a really cool girl and I love you're personality." I'm thinking go on....hahaha just kidding I then accept and we finally end our night/morning.

A few days go by and we talk on the phone everyday and I'm beginning to see that this guy is starting to put a smile on my face just by being "him". Co-workers are even starting to question me like, "who is this guy, where did you meet him, blah blah" It's about two weeks before the wedding and Jack ask if he should get the couple a gift since he's in the wedding and I say yes, I even offer to go with him to help find a gift. The plan was, he was going to pick me up at work since I lived in Frisco at the time with my co-work Cassie and her husband Alex and it was just much closer to the mall. I send him a text with the address to my job, several hours go by and I get a page to the front desk. As I'm walking to the front I see a couple of my co-workers standing around with these big cheesy smiles on their face and I'm thinking what the heck is going on, I reach the front of the store and Jack is standing there with flowers and cupcakes from Sprinkles. I was seriously pleasantly surprised; I never thought in a million years that someone would bring me flowers just because they wanted to. I've gotten flowers on my birthday but I expected it so this was defiantly something that truly moved me. We walk to the tuxedo dept because my co-workers and some guests were "ooohhhhh-ing" & "aaaawwww-ing" he then says that he was in the area and just couldn’t wait till I got off work to see me. After he left I had this stupid silly puppy dog smile on my face for the rest of the day. Ok, the wedding happened and everything was happy go luck, then all of a sudden the text stop coming my way, fewer and fewer phone calls, and its to a point where I maaaayyyyybbbbbbeeeee see him once a week. Before he was all about driving to Frisco from Wylie, none of this was making any sense to me.

It's Fourth of July weekend and I spent it with my side kick in life Natalie, we go out have a grand old time...the next morning I'm waken by a phone call from Jack he then says he wants to spend the evening with me since its one of my favorite holidays and he wants to see fireworks with me. I say ok sure see ya around seven-ish, I normally spend Sunday's with my sister and brother (we’ve always done family day since I was a young pup) it's about two in the afternoon and I'm driving in the car with my sister, my phone rings and it's Jack he then tells me that his family is in town and that he's gonna have dinner with them but he still wants to see fireworks with me. I say that's fine I just really wanna see fireworks. After lunch with my family I go and take a nap and wake up at eight thirty and no phone call from Jack, this strikes me as odd, an hour later I get a call from him saying that he hasn’t gone to dinner yet with his family and doesn’t think we will get to see fireworks STRIKE ONE. I'm pissed because I cancelled other plans with MY friends for this guy "Mr. Wonderful" and he bailed on my favorite holidays. Cassie saw how upset I was and said,” Yvonne put your shoes on and get in the car." She drove me to a gas station so that I could see fireworks on Fourth of July, again thanks Cassie. He then calls and says he's so sorry, he didn’t plan this blah blah blah he wanted to make it up to me and discuss what happen. This should have been a red flag as to how many time other times he would screw up and try to apologize for it.

I had a doctor's appt one day and finished up early I decide to call Jack since I was literally in his area and wanted to see if he wanted to grab lunch, he says he "very" busy but he wanted to have dinner that night so I say ok, he was gonna pick me up at home and we would grab dinner somewhere in my area. I decide to go visit my friend whom I hadn’t seen in like two years, we have lunch talk about her married life, the new baby and then it starts to rain, I stayed at her place till the rain stopped and at this point it is seven thirty so I sent Jack text saying I'm still in his area and it seemed silly for him to drive all the way to Frisco when I was like ten minutes away and I could meet at his place if he wanted. I didn’t hear from him till an hour later with a text that read "hey I just got to Luke’s house, we ordered pizza, and what are you doing?" STRIKE TWO I’m super pissed cause this is the second time he made plans with me and cancelled...common courtesy people pick up the freaking phone and say you have other plans. I sent him text back saying "I'm hanging out with my friend having a really good time, enjoying your evening talk to you next week." oh that got his attention, he called my phone like three times leaving messages "next week? what’s wrong?" The next few days go by and he sent me a text saying, "Geez, you must be really mad at me, what did I do?" I didn’t respond till I got off of work and basically told him that I didn’t appreciate him making plans with me then doing his own thing, I thought it was rude and if he cant keep his word then don’t say your gonna do something. He calls me like two days later and wants to take me to dinner to explain what happen......we go to dinner, it was super awkward. He proceeds to tell me that he’s sorry; he didn’t plan it, whatever. I then tell him that for the short amount of time we’ve been hanging out all I’ve heard from were “sorry’s” and excuses and I didn’t want any part of it. He says he was going to try harder and all I could say was “prove it”

My birthday month…after that night at dinner he tried doing all the things he was doing from the get go but it just wasn’t the same. I was coming to a point where he needed to step up his game and if he didn’t then I was gonna be done with him. He was going to be meeting THE FRIENDS….I was really nervous just because I do value my friends’ opinions and I didn’t wanna disappoint. He gets there and he says hi to everyone and that was pretty much it, he didn’t try to make an effort to get in good with my friends like normal gents do, instead he kept to himself and was just there. The bill comes around and the waiter asks everyone who’s together and who’s not, he finally gets to us and Jack then says that he’s on his own ticket which lead me to say “looks like I’m on my own as well” with this grin on my way that was like WTF?!?!?! STRIKE THREE As I’m pulling my debit card out my friend asks if she really heard him say that and I was like yep, so I excuse myself and go to the ladies room to cool off and as I come back I notice my debit card still on the table but the bill is no where to be found. I’m thinking oh Jack probably picked it up cool, the waiter returns with everyone’s bill and my friends boyfriend leans over the table and says “Happy Birthday Yvonne, you shouldn’t have to pay for your own birthday dinner” I say thanks and I’m mordified….we then head out to a bar and I’m the type of person on my own birthday I typically don’t get too hammered just because I like to insure that everyone is having a good time. We walk in the bar and the first thing Jack says is you want a shot? Really…..you will buy me $7/$8 shots but you don’t wanna buy me dinner…..not interested!!! After that night I was completely done with him, he tried calling and texting me but I never answered.

Labor Day weekend, I get a text from him on Friday around 9pm and it says “hey how have you been?” really like I would respond to you….11pm comes and I get another text saying “wow, guess your really mad at me?” umm you think…..1am rolls around and I receive yet another text from him saying “look, I know you are mad but if you could just give me your time to explain I would appreciate it”. I was in Austin while all of this was happing and I wanted to enjoy my weekend with my family, Sunday rolls around and I’m just lying in bed and respond to his text by saying “honestly you don’t deserve me time” he then replies with “you are right but if you could just give me the chance” I say “you know it is what it is, just take it as a lessoned learned” he doesn’t like what I’m saying then replies with “oh I guess you have never made any mistakes or been confused about a situation” ha I say “oh no I’ve made plenty of mistakes, I’ve just learned from them and know that’s not something I wanna do again…..HENCE lessoned learned” he says “I’m not trying to play the blaming game but I’ve thought long and hard about it and I wanna be your friend now.” WHOA….REALLY?? I say “well I’m glad you thought about it but that’s all I was trying to do from the get go was be your friend and if something else came out of it then great but clearly being my friend was such a difficult task for you so again just take it for what it is!” his finally response “ok Yvonne, ok!!”

It is amazing to me how much B-S guys will say/do just in general, clearly with this fella I thought how cool would it be to say yea we went to high school together didn’t see each other for ten years and then we met up again and are “meant to be”. All I got from this guy was lie after lie, excuse after excuse and the one person who says it best is Carrie Underwood ….

“I should have known by the way you passed me by there was something in your eyes and it wasn't right. I should have walked but I never had the chance, everything got out of hand and I let it slide. Now I only have myself to blame for falling for your stupid games, I wish my life could be the way it was before I saw your face. I'm starting to see everything you lack. Boy, you blew it, you put me through it, I wanna undo it”

Guess I ……….

“Should’ve said no a long time ago”

Family Ties

Brother's best friends, girlfriend, sister-in-law's, cousins, step-brother. I think there has been a point in every one's life when you have either fantasized or actually dated one of your really good friend's realative. For me my little curiosity became a reality for a couple of months. 

Two years ago when I was single, my friend and her boyfriend at the time would always invite me out to keep my mind off of things and to just help me move on with my life. One day we went to her mother's house for a little shin-dig. The whole way there she was telling me that I should take an interest in her mom's boyfriend's son. I of course asked what he looked like and she was filling me in on all the details. We arrive and I was liking what I saw, I got his name (Andrew) and that was pretty much it. Come to find out that he was going to be moving to another state within the next month. Story of my life, just when I do take an interest on anything not just gents something always comes in the way.

I am a firm believer in "things happen for a reason". This February my friends mother got married, it was a beautiful reception. (I arrived late due to my lovely work schedule) Well low and behold Andrew was there, he was actually the bartender that evening. My friend introduces us again and this time around he seemed like he was interested in me. We go about the evening and he keeps making the drinks stronger than normal we then decide to head out. I say bye to everyone that I know, then I get to Andrew I say "It was nice seeing you again, be careful driving home" he then pulls me in for the real thing and says "It was nice seeing you again as well" then kisses me on the cheek. I'm excited on the inside but play is coy on the outside.

A few days go by and we become friends on Facebook and get to talking about our schedules. He has a very noble choice of employment but his hours were pretty random, due to this being his first year on the job. We then exchange numbers via Facebook. One evening me and my girls decide to go to a comedy club then go out on the town. Well, while I'm out with the girls I get a text from Andrew asking what I'm doing that night and I tell him which bar we were at and 20 mintues later he shows up, which was really fun because that night it ended up snowing in the middle of March. After our little field trip to the car while playing in the snow we get in his car and he drops us off back at the house, I say bye to my friends then we get to talking til about 4:30am. We talked about our previous relationships, about his time away living in a different state, his new job, the pros and cons of it.

One month passes and he asks me to dinner, I was really apprehensive about it. I mean I liked the guy but I was also worried about what my friend thought about the situation. Several things ran through my head like, what if we do become "boy/girlfriend" and it ruins my friendship with my friend, or if we do go to their parents house and he's there, how awkward would that be. So I ask her her opinion and she lets me know that its completely fine with her she was the one who told me about him. I agree to dinner and we were suppose to sit on the patio because the weather was starting to become really nice outside but it ended up raining cats and dogs which lead us to sit inside.

We sit in a booth and we get to discussing whats being going on in our lives, our life time goals, dreams. Towards the end of our meal I notice Andrew move my drink to the right and he then places his drink right in front of me. Then all of a sudden he gets up and sits on my side of the booth....this struck me as odd and I asked him "what are you doing?" His reply "I want to be close to you" I then explain to him that I was a little uncomfortable with him sitting on the same side of the booth when there was only two of us. With that being said I was sure he was get up and head to his side of the booth but OOOOHHHHH NO!! He stayed on my side then proceeds to put his arm around my shoulder...I'm not big on PDA at all. I feel that should be something private and behind closed doors. After this little incident he then walks me to my car with his arm around my shoulder...again I'm not big on PDA. He kisses my five head and tells me to be safe driving home.

After that evening Andrew would do the occaissonal text, I didnt really know what to think of him at this point. He would invite me out and I would always make up and excuse. Several months go by and out of the blue I get a text from him asking what my plans were for that night and I tell him nothing. This was a Monday night one week before my birthday he invites me out to a bar so I decide you know what why not. I meet him at the bar and he introduces me to some of his co-workers, we have a grand old time, we say bye and end the evening. Now it's my birthday he sends me a text wishing me a happy birthday then he sends me a birthday wish on Facebook, which is cool I go to his page to thank him for the birthday wish and I came aross his status saying that he was "no longer listed as single".....he was "in a relationship". WHAT THE HECK?!?!?!?! I was shocked I mean, yeah I didnt give him  the time of day after our date with the booth but for him to invite me to a bar then one week later be in a relationship....didnt make any sense. He also but their "anniversary" date which happens to be MY BIRTHDAY!!!! About a month ago I got a text from a number I didnt recognize and it was him...I then reply back asking him if his "girl friend" like the fact that her "boy friend" was giving out his number to other girls and his reply, a typical guy respones, "she's fine with it" PUH-LEASE!! Any girl in their right mind would NOT be ok with the fact that her boyfriend is giving out his new number to a girl he was trying to get with. Guess I......



"should've said no a long time ago"

The Social Network

Hot Stuff! Lil Momma! Sweet Thang! Sexy!.........these are some of the names that have NEVER been said to me. Since middle school, I've always been known as "cute". Every guy that I found attractive was NEVER attracted to me, they would always say, "Yvonne, I like you as a sister" or "You are just too cute, I would feel bad if I hurt you". As if that's suppose to be flattering!

It's funny how things change over the yrs. Who would have thought that we could find people that we havent seen in ages on Myspace or Facebook. Well lucky me, I  came across quite a handful of gents that I use to go to school with. Everyone knows that once you accept their "friendship" on the social network you do the small talk..."how have you been, whats new in your life, what type of work are you doing now" Then you never type to them again. I ended up carrying on conversations with two different "randoms" on Facebook. 

The first one was James, we went to high school and had one class together but he was a senior when I was a sophmore. We use to flirt in high school but he also said, "you are just too cute and too sweet for me to date" James had commented on a few of my photos, saying "you look good after all these years" (geez thanks, as if I was fugly then) he sent me a message (for those that dont have a Facebook, a message is something private between you and the sender) asking how I was holding up and how Paco was doing. Clearly this is his way to see if I'm single or not, so I reply back "I'm doing really well, just trying to focus on me and get my life in order and I wouldnt know how Paco is doing, we arent together anymore."  We do the whole conversation thing for about two weeks, he then asks for my number, saying maybe we can meet up for a drink or something. After debating on if I wanted to give it to him, he then writes me saying, "Hey we can be friends and all but dont write anything on Facebook because I dont want stuff getting back to Paco." Ok first of all, I'm single and free to talk to whom I want when I want! Second, you and Paco never  hung out outside of high school let along in high school. Why James is "scared" of Paco is beyond me...so I reply back saying, "Oh, so you want to be my secret friend? Ok, NOT INTERESTED!!!" I'm sorry but if you cant be my friend on freaking Facebook and it be just a causal thing then you dont deserve my friendship trying to sneak around, I mean....high school was seven years ago buddy! GET OVER IT!!!


The second random I came across was Juan, he was the new student at my middle school. Every girl was after him. He was cute, funny, and nice. For middle schoolers thats kinda of a big deal.....well he dated one girl (and by dating in middle school is walking someone to class or holding their books for them) They dated for about four months then he was back on the market, we had two or three classes together and we would always talk, blah blah blah. So we had a dance and I asked him if he wanted to go with me he said, "Yvonne, I like you as a sister. Plus, you are just too cute for me to hurt." UUUUUGGGGGHHHH if you cant tell, this is beginning to get really annoy me. So middle school is over and now we are in high school, he was on the football team and I was in drill team. Each week we had to make posters for our "buddy" to show school spirit well I ended up getting him my new girl year. I was a sophmore at the time and that's when Paco and I started dating, one night after a football game Juan came up to me and was like, "Yvonne, I've really been thinking and I like you more than a sister now." All I could say was, "Sorry, I'm with Paco now." We go about our business in high school, we even had a few classes through out the years and still managed to be friends. Well lets forward to March of this year, we become friends on Facebook and we talk through messages and we argee to meet up and go to a bar together. On the way to the bar we are talking and he then tells me that he was stupid not try to make it work with me. He's always liked me, he just said that I'm like a sister to him cause he was scared of his true feelings. He never thought that Paco and I would last as long as we did, he was waiting for the day we would break up and he would sweep me off my feet. (serious note, he DID say all of this hahahaha) So as I'm taking all of this in I'm amazed how all these fellas are trying to holla now that I'm single. I swear EVERY guy that I had a crush on back in the day has either tried to take me out on a date, or they compliment on my looks.

My goal is to meet new fellas, fellas that arent a friend of a friend, or anybody from high school. High school was ages ago, move on gents!! Guess I.......


"should've said no a long time ago"

Speedy Gonzales

Everybody has different time frames as to when they are ready to start "dating" again after a break up. For some it could be years, others it could be months, then there's me who after doing the whole break up get back together roller coaster thing for three years it only took me exactly five days to go on my first official date after the previous split with Paco. For me, the reason why I didn't dwell on the situation was simply because I was numb to the whole thing, I had already went through the heartbreak that this time around I didn't need to waste my precious tears on something was done with for quite sometime. That's why when my friend Ashley asked me if I would be willing to meet her boyfriend's really good friend I said why not!!!

One weekend we go to Dave and Busters and do the whole double date thing just so it wouldn't be super awkward. Ashley greeted me at the door and we make our way to the restroom, now of course I have to double check that I look OK and make sure that I don't have anything in between my teeth , well as we walk out we bump into Martin. I really didn't get a great look at him cause it all happen within four point five seconds, we did the generic introduction then he headed to the restroom. We then meet up with her boyfriend and Martin joins us a few minutes later. We played some games for a bit then decided we would sit down and grab something to eat, Ashley is on the same side of the booth as me and  the two fellas are across from us. Through out the dinner I caught Martin looking at me several times, now all I could think was that I either had food on my chin, I had a booger, or he was just trying to see if I was cute or not. So I excuse myself and head towards the restroom to see what the heck he was staring at (nothing was on my face ...phew). I then come back and I over hear Martin telling his friend, "She's really pretty, I feel like I'm just staring at her." So after that comment  I was more relaxed and enjoyed the rest of the evening. I ended up driving him to his car since he parked in the lower level and since it was cold out I thought I would be nice (really I was hoping to get his digits) We get  to his car and we talk for a bit, then he's getting out of the car and he asks for my number, I just got my new phone that day so I didn't know my new number by heart and he probably thought I was making it up not wanting to give it to him.

I guess boys really play into the whole wait three days before you call cause on the third day he called! He left me a voice mail asking if I wanted to go to the movies, so since he waited three days to call me I waited four hours to call him back. I think the whole waiting game is a load of crap!! If you're interested in someone then why play the waiting game and just call the other person, I swear it would be so much easier. So we decided on the day then he tells me that he already picked the movie out and told me the time, at the time it was a little refreshing knowing that someone else was planning the evening but looking back on it now he didn't even ask me if I like that type of movie. We go see the movie and during the middle of it I get up and head to the ladies room, I return and see that the arm rest is up so I'm thinking I didn't move that up, well as I get ready to sit down he pulls me towards him so that we are cuddling. THIS WAS THE FIRST DATE!!! I tried moving away a couple of times just cause it was strange leaning against someone new. After the movie ended we head back to his place, I then meet his brother and his brother's girlfriend. After telling them it was nice meeting them I literally turn my head and I'm greeted with his tongue in my mouth. I was super surprised that I pulled away and said, "ummmm what are you doing?" he then tells me that he just couldn't help himself. GAG!!!

A few days go by and we do the texting back and forth throughout the day, we go on a couple of other dates which is cool. I'm getting to know his likes and dislikes, I even meet his friends. I think meeting of the friends is a big deal, I mean who really likes bringing different girls/guys to functions and you're friends be like who is so and so bringing this time. I feel like you should bring a lady friend or a fella around if its serious or getting serious (just my personal opinion) So I meet the friends introduced myself cause apparently that was too big a task for him to do. Well with certain people he then introduces me as his girlfriend!! WHAT?!?!?! NO NO NO..so I correct him and say "I'm his friend Yvonne" we then go about the evening and the next day I tell him that people generally talk about things like that he then says well lets talk about. We talk about the situation and he was going to school at the time and I  felt like I was a distraction for him and we decided to just end things and see if maybe in the near future we could try it out again?!?!?! Guess I....



"should've said no a long time ago"

My momma would be so ashamed!!

I believe everyone has good friends for different reasons.......one who keeps your darkest secrets, another who you go and try new restaurant's with, there's also the one friend who could NEVER resit a trip to the mall, then there's the friend who is willing to go out on the town with you at the drop of a hat!

Well my one friend who is willing to is always go out on the town is Natalie. Since the break up my partner in crime was trying to keep me busy and always asking me if I wanted to join in on the many, many girls night out. So I'd always go and not really feel attractive, all of my friends are gorgeous. I've never really been approached by any fellas (could be the BIG sign on my five head that reads "F-OFF" I don't know) Needless to say my friends ALWAYS get hit on by guys before I do. This one night, I'm actually feeling pretty darn good about myself, I wore a cute dress, took time on my make up and hair, heck I looked cute! We decide to go to a bar in Uptown and it's fairly crowed. We head to the bar and grab a drink, I see these two fellas closing out their tab. In the mean time Natalie is already ordering herself a beverage, I'm standing behind the two guys waiting to order my beverage. From the way the guy was standing I thought he was going to turn to his left and walk away but oooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhh NO, he turns right and literally bumps into to me. We both apologize and blame ourselves, he then introduces himself "I'm really sorry, I didn't see you there. My name is Tucker, what's yours?" As he's speaking to me I was thinking DDDDDDAAAAANNNNNGGGGG this guy is really good looking. He's probably just gonna be like the rest of the "Dallas Douche Lords" say sorry then head out. Normally I have a bar name when I go out but this night I was feeling a little adventurous so I decided to give him my real name. I introduce myself and we get to talking about what we do for a living, are we originally from Dallas, the whole she-bang! He then offers to buy me a drink and I refresh his memory and tell him that he just closed out his tab and that he really didn't need to buy me a drink. He then says, "Well I closed out because I didn't think it was worth staying here, ...but now I think otherwise." With this huge mischievous smile on his face......talk about a smooth operator! So with that being said OF COURSE that boosted my ego up ten notches!!!

In the meantime, the group of girls that I was with are giving me thumbs up in the corner and saying,"dannnngggg Yvonne he's really cute. Get it girl" Just really making it alittle uncomfortable and really obvious that I had found him attracted, or at least I had hoped. You never really know what someone looks like when you are at a bar and there's alcohol ...it can lead to a soooo not good looking guy or girl.....just saying!!!So the bar closes and the lights turn on and YES, he is as good looking in the light. He then invites me over to his place, (this is so not my character but I didn't get a bad vibe like I normally would) Plus before heading out a co-worker of mine told me "the best way to get over someone is to  get under someone." Till this day I don't really know if that's the BEST advice to give out but that night I seriously took it into consideration. So I arrive at his place and we talk some more then.....The next morning I wake up and think oh man Carrie Underwood said it best "My momma would be so ashamed, It started off hey cutie where you from, then turned into oh, no what have I done."

A couple of days go by and I remember that I left my sisters brown earrings at his place. Not gonna lie, I never really had any intentions on contacting him after that night. So I'm in a pickle and am contemplating if I should really contact him to get them back. I called my friend whom I will not name but she then tells me, "Yvonne, if you decide to do that again rule # 1 you get in and you get out." Wish I was told that before hand....then I remember that my sister didn't know I borrowed her earrings. So this lead me to send him a text, well I had to text him numerous times before I finally got a hold of him. (I'm sure I seemed like a stalker)  We then decide to meet at his place well he tells me a time but  I'm literally waiting  for 35 minutes in his drive way before he shows up. He arrives and tells me that he completely forgot we were meeting up and I tell him, " ummm you told me to come here at this time soooo..." well I walk in and we head to the restroom, as I'm in the hallway waiting he pulls out a clear bin full of jewelery and I'm thinking ohhhh man, what the heck did  I get myself into, he then explains that that's his sister's jewelery PUUH-LEASE!!! I'm not as stupid as I look, geez!!!


Few months go by and I had a wedding party that I had to dress for work. (I work in the tuxedo department at a bridal store) well, the guys can either fax, email, call, or come in for measurements. I received a fax and the first and last name seemed really familiar but I never really put to and to together. The week of the wedding the wedding party starts coming in and getting fitted well of course there's always one straggler who waits at the last minute to try his tux on, so they page my name to tuxedos I walk in and guess who I see.........TUCKER!!! I'm thinking what are the freaking odds of this?!?!?!?!?!?!?! So I say hi whats your name what party are you with, and I'm not making any eye contact with him. So as he's trying on his tux I'm checking myself out in the mirror thanking the lord that I actually straighten my hair that day and that I looked descent. Don't act like you people don't check yourself out cause we all do it! He then comes out and he's asking me if he has his bow tie on correctly and he doesn't so he asks if I will help him with it so I do now he's a good six feet tall and I'm five even, so if you can imagine this as I'm adjusting his tie for him he then says to  me, "I feel like I've met you before." All I could say was. "Yep...we have had conversation before." and I think at that moment a light bulb went off in his head and we both turned cherry red. It was super awkward afterwards cause I had to take payment on his tuxedo and I kinda felt like pretty woman asking for his credit card. Never thought in a million years that I would have that happen to me, guess I....


"should've said no a long time ago"

Inevitable

Just so you know, the names of these fellas are NOT their real names, so this will be the first of many blogs to come!

Three years ago I use to work at a restaurant (orange shorts, white tank top, scrunchy socks...hopefully from this little description you know the place) well, while working there I had quite a few regulars. Regulars are customers that come in and always want to sit with you. (for those that have never worked in the food industry before) Well I struck up a very close relationship with one of the regulars, not in any disgusting way people. Get your minds out of  the gutter, he was more of a fatherly figure. So every Tuesday and Fridays he would come in with a group of his friends, and I would always have a table ready for them with their favorite beers. (talk about customer service) One Tuesday afternoon my co-worker came up to me and said, "Yvonne, I think you boyfriend is here, he's really cute." I was thinking to myself, boyfriend?...yea right, he wouldn't come up here! So I tracked down my co-worker and asked her where this "so called boyfriend" was and she told me,  "at the front waiting for you".

OK so my "dream" guy is Dermot Mulroney, if you have no clue who I'm talking about he's the guy from "My best friend's wedding", "The Family Stone", & "The Wedding Date". Well as I walked to the front I noticed a really good looking fella (he resembles Dermot Mulroney, well in my eyes anyways) I was shocked that he would be asking for me, so many thoughts ran through my head like: how does he know me, what does he want, is he single??? haha So I apporched him with a smile and said, "I'm sorry, how do I know you?" His reply "You dont, Matthew told me to grab a table and ask for you" (Matthew is the fatherly figure) I said, "OH..Ok, my name is Yvonne, nice to meet you." And he said, "I'm Jacob, nice to meet you. I just started working for Matthew and I'm new to the area." Needless to say, Jacob was in the place every Tuesday and Friday's with Matthew. A year and a half passed, me and Paco (yes the same guy I was with for nine years) well if you guess that we broke up then your right. Word got around to Jacob that I was single and ready to mingle, he asked for my number and then asked me to dinner. I had never been on a real date before so I asked if it could be like a double date, he had a single friend and I had a single friend. Once I found out where dinner was going to be I called the one friend I knew who would NEVER pass up sushi....good old Sierra. Dinner went well and things with us started taking off, we would do the occassional dinner and a movie, hang out with friends, so I guess you could say that we were dating eachother. We just never really had a lable, just enjoining eachother's company.

One Wednesday night he called me and said that he wanted to see me before he went out of town (he was going to be gone for two weeks for work) So I picked up a movie "You, Me, & Dupree" and we ordered a pizza. After the movie I was like, "Ok, well I'm going to go home now", he convinced me to stay and said that he had a spare key and just really wanted to spend time with me...blah blah blah. I say blah blah but at the time I was loving every minute of it. I woke up the next morning and he's gone and on the counter there was a note and the spare key. I was really surprised to see the key there, I've never really been given a key so this was like a really BIG deal for me. While he's gone, he calls me, sends me texts throughout the day, the whole nine yards. Well, while he's away I went to dinner and to a movie with Paco. Paco was trying to wizzle his way back to my life and I feel for the bait. I went over to Matthews job site and as I was driving up I noticed Jacob's vehicle there and thought hmmmmm that's funny, he hasnt even tried calling me or anything. I walk in a say hello to Matthew and then he tells  me that Jacob is upstairs. I go upstairs walk into his office and he greets me with, "Oh hey you, how have you been?" As if nothing,...I'm a little annoyed and I see his phone is on his desk. I picked up his phone to see if there was a dial tone and there was. As I'm doing this, he's looking at me like WTF, so I say, " Oh just checking to see if your phone works, guess what....it does." He gives me excuse after excuse as to why he hasnt called. blah blah blah, while he's still trying to save himself I then pull out the key to his place and throw it on his desk. He then says, "Oh I forgot I gave that to you." Wow, so I guess you give your key out offten is what I was thinking. I walk out and he keeps calling my name but I didnt go back to his office.

A couple of weeks pass and at this point me and Paco are back together, I got a random text from Jacob that read: "Please call me, we need to talk." Every bad possible thought went through my head at that moment, I didnt respond because I was in the car with Paco. So a couple of minutes went by and Jacob calls me but I hit ignore, then he sent me another text that read: "Call me back, it's an emergency" I stepped away to make the call, I know I know I was bad girfriend at the time but I needed to know what was going on. Well this so-called "emergency" was that Chris Daughtry was in Addison for The Taste of Addison and he knew I liked him and wanted to see if I wanted to join him and a couple of his friends. At the time I thought it was really cute that he went through all that just to let me  know that Chris Daughtry was here. Well a couple of days go by and I get a call from Jacob and at this point me and Paco are living together. I answer the call only because Paco was out of the house, I then tell him that I'm back with Paco and we want to try to make it work. We then decide to keep eachothers numbers just to see what the future might hold.

Two years pass and I'm yep, you guessed it single.....I got a new phone and as I was tranferring the numbers I came across Jacobs name, I sent a blast text letting everyone know  that I got a new number. Like two minutes passed and I got a text from Jacob asking: "Who is this?" So I tell him it was me and we do the whole generic small talk, "How have you been, what's new?" Then he tells me that he's in a relationship  so Ijust responded back, "OH,.....OK......cool" After that text I starting to think that timing  was so off with us. That happen this Feburary, well in March around 11:00ish my phone went off and I'm thinking who the heck would be contacting me at this hour? I grab my phone and the screen reads: Jacob, at that moment my heart stopped.  I was shocked, confused, excited, heck I was speechless. I'm starting at the screen thinking OMG OMG OMG does that really say Jacob!! The text read: "Hey this is Jacob, is this Yvonne? I have like three different numbers for you." So I played it cool and waited to respond, three minutes later i wrote,"Yes, this is Yvonne, this is my current number. How have you been?" He respondes back like Speedy Gonzales and asks if he could call me. I told him sure, I'm still surprised that I'm walking around in my room thinking what is going on, maybe there is a chance we can try it out again. As my mind was somewhere else I forgot he was gonna call and I scared myself  when the phone rang. We talked for about a good fifteen minutes, he basically wanted to let me know that he was single and he needed to vent so I let him vent, but as he's venting the only thing that stuck out in my mind was the fact that HE WAS SINGLE!! I'm thinking I'm single, your single, lets mingle. haha

Exaclty one month to the day from our last conversation, I decided to shoot him a text and see how he was holding up. He responded back and told me that he and the EX were going to try to make it work, real talk....I was bummed. So me being me I replied back, " well, I hope it works out for you. I want to see you happy, either with  me or her...hahaha just kidding, good luck." So he responds back, "thanks, I wish the same for you." I honestly thought that would be the last time I hear from him......boy was I wrong. In July I got a phone call from Jacob and I picked up and we decided to meet up for some drinks, well he tells me the whole story again about why they broke up and that he has mixed feelings, he doesnt know what to do, he doesnt want to hurt her. So I tell  him stop worring about how your gonna make her feel, how do you feel, what do you want, you  have to look out for number one. He thanks me for the advice then he walks me to my car, we hug and he says, " I''ll call you or send you a text sometime this week, lets do dinner." So I say, " Yeah right Jacob, I get the whole break up get back together, trust me I did it for three years." He replies, "Come on Yvonne, dont be like that. I'm really done with her." I say, "Well, dont talk about it, be about it." The next morning I recieve a text from him that read: "Hey, it was good catching up last night, I know you know this but please dont contact me, I'll conatct you. It's not like you dont know my situation, it would only make things more difficult." So I dont respond I mean what do you even say to that?! (Rhetorical question)

So a month passes and I get a text from him and he asks if he could call me and I tell him that I'm working but if he wants he could callme after six, he then replies that he will call around seven thirty. So seven thirty come and right on time he calls...he was always good about doing what he says. I answer and he begins to telll me that so much has happen to him and he wanted to be the one to tell me that he was going to propose to his EX girl friend. Not gonna lie, I was crushed.................I dont wish him well or even try to  talk him out of it, I know and he knows that thats a HUGE mistake, I've said this before and I'll say it again...if you have any doubts in your mind about being with something then you probably shouldnt be together, when someone proposes to someone you should be 150 percent sure that that's the one. No questions asked!! Then he goes into the real reason he called, " I called to tell you that we need to deleted eachothers numbers, I mean I've always stayed in contact with my ex girlfriends but your the one ex girlfriend I can not be in contact with." I'm beginnning to think that I have selective hearing beacuse all I heard him say that I was his ex girlfriend hahahahahaha!

There's a song by Jessie James called "Inevitable" and the course pretty much sums up this three year thing.
You're in love with me n you just don't know it yet
Everyone sees it, but you won't admit
That you're already in too deep n there's no goin' back, No oh
How much longer are you gonna hide
Make up your mind before you run out of time
I know that she's beautiful
But our love's inevitable




"should've said no a long time ago"

Why I decided to start a blog.....

I would like to start off my introducing who I am, my name is Yvonne and I'm 26 years old. If someone were to ask me 5 years ago where I saw myself in 5 years, I would have said, "I could see myself as either being married or planning my wedding." Let me bring you back to reality....that's clearly not how it ended up!

This year I decided to end my 9 year....YES 9 year relationship with my high school boyfriend.Long story short...we wanted different things out of life. I'm really quite surprised that it lasted as long as it did, not a lot of people these days can say that they've been in a relationship for that long. It was defiinitely a learning experience let me tell you, but that's not really why I wanted to start a blog.

I wanted to start a blog because I've never really experience the whole "dating" in high school and I'm still kinda new to the whole "dating" world. I've gone on quite a number of dates and to be completely honest with you, they ALL have turned out to be pretty horrible. I know, I know everyone goes on bad dates and what not but I've gone out with some oh ...what's a nice way to say this... some "randoms". I started to think for a second that maybe something was wrong me. Which I've discovered is NOT the case!

There's just some many different stories that I could tell you now but I will go ahead and end it for this first session of blogging, I feel everyone should  have a signautre sign off so mind will be ......

"should've said no a long time ago".