Brother's best friends, girlfriend, sister-in-law's, cousins, step-brother. I think there has been a point in every one's life when you have either fantasized or actually dated one of your really good friend's realative. For me my little curiosity became a reality for a couple of months.
Two years ago when I was single, my friend and her boyfriend at the time would always invite me out to keep my mind off of things and to just help me move on with my life. One day we went to her mother's house for a little shin-dig. The whole way there she was telling me that I should take an interest in her mom's boyfriend's son. I of course asked what he looked like and she was filling me in on all the details. We arrive and I was liking what I saw, I got his name (Andrew) and that was pretty much it. Come to find out that he was going to be moving to another state within the next month. Story of my life, just when I do take an interest on anything not just gents something always comes in the way.
I am a firm believer in "things happen for a reason". This February my friends mother got married, it was a beautiful reception. (I arrived late due to my lovely work schedule) Well low and behold Andrew was there, he was actually the bartender that evening. My friend introduces us again and this time around he seemed like he was interested in me. We go about the evening and he keeps making the drinks stronger than normal we then decide to head out. I say bye to everyone that I know, then I get to Andrew I say "It was nice seeing you again, be careful driving home" he then pulls me in for the real thing and says "It was nice seeing you again as well" then kisses me on the cheek. I'm excited on the inside but play is coy on the outside.
A few days go by and we become friends on Facebook and get to talking about our schedules. He has a very noble choice of employment but his hours were pretty random, due to this being his first year on the job. We then exchange numbers via Facebook. One evening me and my girls decide to go to a comedy club then go out on the town. Well, while I'm out with the girls I get a text from Andrew asking what I'm doing that night and I tell him which bar we were at and 20 mintues later he shows up, which was really fun because that night it ended up snowing in the middle of March. After our little field trip to the car while playing in the snow we get in his car and he drops us off back at the house, I say bye to my friends then we get to talking til about 4:30am. We talked about our previous relationships, about his time away living in a different state, his new job, the pros and cons of it.
One month passes and he asks me to dinner, I was really apprehensive about it. I mean I liked the guy but I was also worried about what my friend thought about the situation. Several things ran through my head like, what if we do become "boy/girlfriend" and it ruins my friendship with my friend, or if we do go to their parents house and he's there, how awkward would that be. So I ask her her opinion and she lets me know that its completely fine with her she was the one who told me about him. I agree to dinner and we were suppose to sit on the patio because the weather was starting to become really nice outside but it ended up raining cats and dogs which lead us to sit inside.
We sit in a booth and we get to discussing whats being going on in our lives, our life time goals, dreams. Towards the end of our meal I notice Andrew move my drink to the right and he then places his drink right in front of me. Then all of a sudden he gets up and sits on my side of the booth....this struck me as odd and I asked him "what are you doing?" His reply "I want to be close to you" I then explain to him that I was a little uncomfortable with him sitting on the same side of the booth when there was only two of us. With that being said I was sure he was get up and head to his side of the booth but OOOOHHHHH NO!! He stayed on my side then proceeds to put his arm around my shoulder...I'm not big on PDA at all. I feel that should be something private and behind closed doors. After this little incident he then walks me to my car with his arm around my shoulder...again I'm not big on PDA. He kisses my five head and tells me to be safe driving home.
After that evening Andrew would do the occaissonal text, I didnt really know what to think of him at this point. He would invite me out and I would always make up and excuse. Several months go by and out of the blue I get a text from him asking what my plans were for that night and I tell him nothing. This was a Monday night one week before my birthday he invites me out to a bar so I decide you know what why not. I meet him at the bar and he introduces me to some of his co-workers, we have a grand old time, we say bye and end the evening. Now it's my birthday he sends me a text wishing me a happy birthday then he sends me a birthday wish on Facebook, which is cool I go to his page to thank him for the birthday wish and I came aross his status saying that he was "no longer listed as single".....he was "in a relationship". WHAT THE HECK?!?!?!?! I was shocked I mean, yeah I didnt give him the time of day after our date with the booth but for him to invite me to a bar then one week later be in a relationship....didnt make any sense. He also but their "anniversary" date which happens to be MY BIRTHDAY!!!! About a month ago I got a text from a number I didnt recognize and it was him...I then reply back asking him if his "girl friend" like the fact that her "boy friend" was giving out his number to other girls and his reply, a typical guy respones, "she's fine with it" PUH-LEASE!! Any girl in their right mind would NOT be ok with the fact that her boyfriend is giving out his new number to a girl he was trying to get with. Guess I......
"should've said no a long time ago"
Monday, October 25, 2010
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
The Social Network
Hot Stuff! Lil Momma! Sweet Thang! Sexy!.........these are some of the names that have NEVER been said to me. Since middle school, I've always been known as "cute". Every guy that I found attractive was NEVER attracted to me, they would always say, "Yvonne, I like you as a sister" or "You are just too cute, I would feel bad if I hurt you". As if that's suppose to be flattering!
It's funny how things change over the yrs. Who would have thought that we could find people that we havent seen in ages on Myspace or Facebook. Well lucky me, I came across quite a handful of gents that I use to go to school with. Everyone knows that once you accept their "friendship" on the social network you do the small talk..."how have you been, whats new in your life, what type of work are you doing now" Then you never type to them again. I ended up carrying on conversations with two different "randoms" on Facebook.
The first one was James, we went to high school and had one class together but he was a senior when I was a sophmore. We use to flirt in high school but he also said, "you are just too cute and too sweet for me to date" James had commented on a few of my photos, saying "you look good after all these years" (geez thanks, as if I was fugly then) he sent me a message (for those that dont have a Facebook, a message is something private between you and the sender) asking how I was holding up and how Paco was doing. Clearly this is his way to see if I'm single or not, so I reply back "I'm doing really well, just trying to focus on me and get my life in order and I wouldnt know how Paco is doing, we arent together anymore." We do the whole conversation thing for about two weeks, he then asks for my number, saying maybe we can meet up for a drink or something. After debating on if I wanted to give it to him, he then writes me saying, "Hey we can be friends and all but dont write anything on Facebook because I dont want stuff getting back to Paco." Ok first of all, I'm single and free to talk to whom I want when I want! Second, you and Paco never hung out outside of high school let along in high school. Why James is "scared" of Paco is beyond me...so I reply back saying, "Oh, so you want to be my secret friend? Ok, NOT INTERESTED!!!" I'm sorry but if you cant be my friend on freaking Facebook and it be just a causal thing then you dont deserve my friendship trying to sneak around, I mean....high school was seven years ago buddy! GET OVER IT!!!
The second random I came across was Juan, he was the new student at my middle school. Every girl was after him. He was cute, funny, and nice. For middle schoolers thats kinda of a big deal.....well he dated one girl (and by dating in middle school is walking someone to class or holding their books for them) They dated for about four months then he was back on the market, we had two or three classes together and we would always talk, blah blah blah. So we had a dance and I asked him if he wanted to go with me he said, "Yvonne, I like you as a sister. Plus, you are just too cute for me to hurt." UUUUUGGGGGHHHH if you cant tell, this is beginning to get really annoy me. So middle school is over and now we are in high school, he was on the football team and I was in drill team. Each week we had to make posters for our "buddy" to show school spirit well I ended up getting him my new girl year. I was a sophmore at the time and that's when Paco and I started dating, one night after a football game Juan came up to me and was like, "Yvonne, I've really been thinking and I like you more than a sister now." All I could say was, "Sorry, I'm with Paco now." We go about our business in high school, we even had a few classes through out the years and still managed to be friends. Well lets forward to March of this year, we become friends on Facebook and we talk through messages and we argee to meet up and go to a bar together. On the way to the bar we are talking and he then tells me that he was stupid not try to make it work with me. He's always liked me, he just said that I'm like a sister to him cause he was scared of his true feelings. He never thought that Paco and I would last as long as we did, he was waiting for the day we would break up and he would sweep me off my feet. (serious note, he DID say all of this hahahaha) So as I'm taking all of this in I'm amazed how all these fellas are trying to holla now that I'm single. I swear EVERY guy that I had a crush on back in the day has either tried to take me out on a date, or they compliment on my looks.
My goal is to meet new fellas, fellas that arent a friend of a friend, or anybody from high school. High school was ages ago, move on gents!! Guess I.......
"should've said no a long time ago"
It's funny how things change over the yrs. Who would have thought that we could find people that we havent seen in ages on Myspace or Facebook. Well lucky me, I came across quite a handful of gents that I use to go to school with. Everyone knows that once you accept their "friendship" on the social network you do the small talk..."how have you been, whats new in your life, what type of work are you doing now" Then you never type to them again. I ended up carrying on conversations with two different "randoms" on Facebook.
The first one was James, we went to high school and had one class together but he was a senior when I was a sophmore. We use to flirt in high school but he also said, "you are just too cute and too sweet for me to date" James had commented on a few of my photos, saying "you look good after all these years" (geez thanks, as if I was fugly then) he sent me a message (for those that dont have a Facebook, a message is something private between you and the sender) asking how I was holding up and how Paco was doing. Clearly this is his way to see if I'm single or not, so I reply back "I'm doing really well, just trying to focus on me and get my life in order and I wouldnt know how Paco is doing, we arent together anymore." We do the whole conversation thing for about two weeks, he then asks for my number, saying maybe we can meet up for a drink or something. After debating on if I wanted to give it to him, he then writes me saying, "Hey we can be friends and all but dont write anything on Facebook because I dont want stuff getting back to Paco." Ok first of all, I'm single and free to talk to whom I want when I want! Second, you and Paco never hung out outside of high school let along in high school. Why James is "scared" of Paco is beyond me...so I reply back saying, "Oh, so you want to be my secret friend? Ok, NOT INTERESTED!!!" I'm sorry but if you cant be my friend on freaking Facebook and it be just a causal thing then you dont deserve my friendship trying to sneak around, I mean....high school was seven years ago buddy! GET OVER IT!!!
The second random I came across was Juan, he was the new student at my middle school. Every girl was after him. He was cute, funny, and nice. For middle schoolers thats kinda of a big deal.....well he dated one girl (and by dating in middle school is walking someone to class or holding their books for them) They dated for about four months then he was back on the market, we had two or three classes together and we would always talk, blah blah blah. So we had a dance and I asked him if he wanted to go with me he said, "Yvonne, I like you as a sister. Plus, you are just too cute for me to hurt." UUUUUGGGGGHHHH if you cant tell, this is beginning to get really annoy me. So middle school is over and now we are in high school, he was on the football team and I was in drill team. Each week we had to make posters for our "buddy" to show school spirit well I ended up getting him my new girl year. I was a sophmore at the time and that's when Paco and I started dating, one night after a football game Juan came up to me and was like, "Yvonne, I've really been thinking and I like you more than a sister now." All I could say was, "Sorry, I'm with Paco now." We go about our business in high school, we even had a few classes through out the years and still managed to be friends. Well lets forward to March of this year, we become friends on Facebook and we talk through messages and we argee to meet up and go to a bar together. On the way to the bar we are talking and he then tells me that he was stupid not try to make it work with me. He's always liked me, he just said that I'm like a sister to him cause he was scared of his true feelings. He never thought that Paco and I would last as long as we did, he was waiting for the day we would break up and he would sweep me off my feet. (serious note, he DID say all of this hahahaha) So as I'm taking all of this in I'm amazed how all these fellas are trying to holla now that I'm single. I swear EVERY guy that I had a crush on back in the day has either tried to take me out on a date, or they compliment on my looks.
My goal is to meet new fellas, fellas that arent a friend of a friend, or anybody from high school. High school was ages ago, move on gents!! Guess I.......
"should've said no a long time ago"
Monday, October 4, 2010
Speedy Gonzales
Everybody has different time frames as to when they are ready to start "dating" again after a break up. For some it could be years, others it could be months, then there's me who after doing the whole break up get back together roller coaster thing for three years it only took me exactly five days to go on my first official date after the previous split with Paco. For me, the reason why I didn't dwell on the situation was simply because I was numb to the whole thing, I had already went through the heartbreak that this time around I didn't need to waste my precious tears on something was done with for quite sometime. That's why when my friend Ashley asked me if I would be willing to meet her boyfriend's really good friend I said why not!!!
One weekend we go to Dave and Busters and do the whole double date thing just so it wouldn't be super awkward. Ashley greeted me at the door and we make our way to the restroom, now of course I have to double check that I look OK and make sure that I don't have anything in between my teeth , well as we walk out we bump into Martin. I really didn't get a great look at him cause it all happen within four point five seconds, we did the generic introduction then he headed to the restroom. We then meet up with her boyfriend and Martin joins us a few minutes later. We played some games for a bit then decided we would sit down and grab something to eat, Ashley is on the same side of the booth as me and the two fellas are across from us. Through out the dinner I caught Martin looking at me several times, now all I could think was that I either had food on my chin, I had a booger, or he was just trying to see if I was cute or not. So I excuse myself and head towards the restroom to see what the heck he was staring at (nothing was on my face ...phew). I then come back and I over hear Martin telling his friend, "She's really pretty, I feel like I'm just staring at her." So after that comment I was more relaxed and enjoyed the rest of the evening. I ended up driving him to his car since he parked in the lower level and since it was cold out I thought I would be nice (really I was hoping to get his digits) We get to his car and we talk for a bit, then he's getting out of the car and he asks for my number, I just got my new phone that day so I didn't know my new number by heart and he probably thought I was making it up not wanting to give it to him.
I guess boys really play into the whole wait three days before you call cause on the third day he called! He left me a voice mail asking if I wanted to go to the movies, so since he waited three days to call me I waited four hours to call him back. I think the whole waiting game is a load of crap!! If you're interested in someone then why play the waiting game and just call the other person, I swear it would be so much easier. So we decided on the day then he tells me that he already picked the movie out and told me the time, at the time it was a little refreshing knowing that someone else was planning the evening but looking back on it now he didn't even ask me if I like that type of movie. We go see the movie and during the middle of it I get up and head to the ladies room, I return and see that the arm rest is up so I'm thinking I didn't move that up, well as I get ready to sit down he pulls me towards him so that we are cuddling. THIS WAS THE FIRST DATE!!! I tried moving away a couple of times just cause it was strange leaning against someone new. After the movie ended we head back to his place, I then meet his brother and his brother's girlfriend. After telling them it was nice meeting them I literally turn my head and I'm greeted with his tongue in my mouth. I was super surprised that I pulled away and said, "ummmm what are you doing?" he then tells me that he just couldn't help himself. GAG!!!
A few days go by and we do the texting back and forth throughout the day, we go on a couple of other dates which is cool. I'm getting to know his likes and dislikes, I even meet his friends. I think meeting of the friends is a big deal, I mean who really likes bringing different girls/guys to functions and you're friends be like who is so and so bringing this time. I feel like you should bring a lady friend or a fella around if its serious or getting serious (just my personal opinion) So I meet the friends introduced myself cause apparently that was too big a task for him to do. Well with certain people he then introduces me as his girlfriend!! WHAT?!?!?! NO NO NO..so I correct him and say "I'm his friend Yvonne" we then go about the evening and the next day I tell him that people generally talk about things like that he then says well lets talk about. We talk about the situation and he was going to school at the time and I felt like I was a distraction for him and we decided to just end things and see if maybe in the near future we could try it out again?!?!?! Guess I....
"should've said no a long time ago"
One weekend we go to Dave and Busters and do the whole double date thing just so it wouldn't be super awkward. Ashley greeted me at the door and we make our way to the restroom, now of course I have to double check that I look OK and make sure that I don't have anything in between my teeth , well as we walk out we bump into Martin. I really didn't get a great look at him cause it all happen within four point five seconds, we did the generic introduction then he headed to the restroom. We then meet up with her boyfriend and Martin joins us a few minutes later. We played some games for a bit then decided we would sit down and grab something to eat, Ashley is on the same side of the booth as me and the two fellas are across from us. Through out the dinner I caught Martin looking at me several times, now all I could think was that I either had food on my chin, I had a booger, or he was just trying to see if I was cute or not. So I excuse myself and head towards the restroom to see what the heck he was staring at (nothing was on my face ...phew). I then come back and I over hear Martin telling his friend, "She's really pretty, I feel like I'm just staring at her." So after that comment I was more relaxed and enjoyed the rest of the evening. I ended up driving him to his car since he parked in the lower level and since it was cold out I thought I would be nice (really I was hoping to get his digits) We get to his car and we talk for a bit, then he's getting out of the car and he asks for my number, I just got my new phone that day so I didn't know my new number by heart and he probably thought I was making it up not wanting to give it to him.
I guess boys really play into the whole wait three days before you call cause on the third day he called! He left me a voice mail asking if I wanted to go to the movies, so since he waited three days to call me I waited four hours to call him back. I think the whole waiting game is a load of crap!! If you're interested in someone then why play the waiting game and just call the other person, I swear it would be so much easier. So we decided on the day then he tells me that he already picked the movie out and told me the time, at the time it was a little refreshing knowing that someone else was planning the evening but looking back on it now he didn't even ask me if I like that type of movie. We go see the movie and during the middle of it I get up and head to the ladies room, I return and see that the arm rest is up so I'm thinking I didn't move that up, well as I get ready to sit down he pulls me towards him so that we are cuddling. THIS WAS THE FIRST DATE!!! I tried moving away a couple of times just cause it was strange leaning against someone new. After the movie ended we head back to his place, I then meet his brother and his brother's girlfriend. After telling them it was nice meeting them I literally turn my head and I'm greeted with his tongue in my mouth. I was super surprised that I pulled away and said, "ummmm what are you doing?" he then tells me that he just couldn't help himself. GAG!!!
A few days go by and we do the texting back and forth throughout the day, we go on a couple of other dates which is cool. I'm getting to know his likes and dislikes, I even meet his friends. I think meeting of the friends is a big deal, I mean who really likes bringing different girls/guys to functions and you're friends be like who is so and so bringing this time. I feel like you should bring a lady friend or a fella around if its serious or getting serious (just my personal opinion) So I meet the friends introduced myself cause apparently that was too big a task for him to do. Well with certain people he then introduces me as his girlfriend!! WHAT?!?!?! NO NO NO..so I correct him and say "I'm his friend Yvonne" we then go about the evening and the next day I tell him that people generally talk about things like that he then says well lets talk about. We talk about the situation and he was going to school at the time and I felt like I was a distraction for him and we decided to just end things and see if maybe in the near future we could try it out again?!?!?! Guess I....
"should've said no a long time ago"
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