Family Ties

Brother's best friends, girlfriend, sister-in-law's, cousins, step-brother. I think there has been a point in every one's life when you have either fantasized or actually dated one of your really good friend's realative. For me my little curiosity became a reality for a couple of months. 

Two years ago when I was single, my friend and her boyfriend at the time would always invite me out to keep my mind off of things and to just help me move on with my life. One day we went to her mother's house for a little shin-dig. The whole way there she was telling me that I should take an interest in her mom's boyfriend's son. I of course asked what he looked like and she was filling me in on all the details. We arrive and I was liking what I saw, I got his name (Andrew) and that was pretty much it. Come to find out that he was going to be moving to another state within the next month. Story of my life, just when I do take an interest on anything not just gents something always comes in the way.

I am a firm believer in "things happen for a reason". This February my friends mother got married, it was a beautiful reception. (I arrived late due to my lovely work schedule) Well low and behold Andrew was there, he was actually the bartender that evening. My friend introduces us again and this time around he seemed like he was interested in me. We go about the evening and he keeps making the drinks stronger than normal we then decide to head out. I say bye to everyone that I know, then I get to Andrew I say "It was nice seeing you again, be careful driving home" he then pulls me in for the real thing and says "It was nice seeing you again as well" then kisses me on the cheek. I'm excited on the inside but play is coy on the outside.

A few days go by and we become friends on Facebook and get to talking about our schedules. He has a very noble choice of employment but his hours were pretty random, due to this being his first year on the job. We then exchange numbers via Facebook. One evening me and my girls decide to go to a comedy club then go out on the town. Well, while I'm out with the girls I get a text from Andrew asking what I'm doing that night and I tell him which bar we were at and 20 mintues later he shows up, which was really fun because that night it ended up snowing in the middle of March. After our little field trip to the car while playing in the snow we get in his car and he drops us off back at the house, I say bye to my friends then we get to talking til about 4:30am. We talked about our previous relationships, about his time away living in a different state, his new job, the pros and cons of it.

One month passes and he asks me to dinner, I was really apprehensive about it. I mean I liked the guy but I was also worried about what my friend thought about the situation. Several things ran through my head like, what if we do become "boy/girlfriend" and it ruins my friendship with my friend, or if we do go to their parents house and he's there, how awkward would that be. So I ask her her opinion and she lets me know that its completely fine with her she was the one who told me about him. I agree to dinner and we were suppose to sit on the patio because the weather was starting to become really nice outside but it ended up raining cats and dogs which lead us to sit inside.

We sit in a booth and we get to discussing whats being going on in our lives, our life time goals, dreams. Towards the end of our meal I notice Andrew move my drink to the right and he then places his drink right in front of me. Then all of a sudden he gets up and sits on my side of the booth....this struck me as odd and I asked him "what are you doing?" His reply "I want to be close to you" I then explain to him that I was a little uncomfortable with him sitting on the same side of the booth when there was only two of us. With that being said I was sure he was get up and head to his side of the booth but OOOOHHHHH NO!! He stayed on my side then proceeds to put his arm around my shoulder...I'm not big on PDA at all. I feel that should be something private and behind closed doors. After this little incident he then walks me to my car with his arm around my shoulder...again I'm not big on PDA. He kisses my five head and tells me to be safe driving home.

After that evening Andrew would do the occaissonal text, I didnt really know what to think of him at this point. He would invite me out and I would always make up and excuse. Several months go by and out of the blue I get a text from him asking what my plans were for that night and I tell him nothing. This was a Monday night one week before my birthday he invites me out to a bar so I decide you know what why not. I meet him at the bar and he introduces me to some of his co-workers, we have a grand old time, we say bye and end the evening. Now it's my birthday he sends me a text wishing me a happy birthday then he sends me a birthday wish on Facebook, which is cool I go to his page to thank him for the birthday wish and I came aross his status saying that he was "no longer listed as single".....he was "in a relationship". WHAT THE HECK?!?!?!?! I was shocked I mean, yeah I didnt give him  the time of day after our date with the booth but for him to invite me to a bar then one week later be in a relationship....didnt make any sense. He also but their "anniversary" date which happens to be MY BIRTHDAY!!!! About a month ago I got a text from a number I didnt recognize and it was him...I then reply back asking him if his "girl friend" like the fact that her "boy friend" was giving out his number to other girls and his reply, a typical guy respones, "she's fine with it" PUH-LEASE!! Any girl in their right mind would NOT be ok with the fact that her boyfriend is giving out his new number to a girl he was trying to get with. Guess I......



"should've said no a long time ago"